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This is a great post, Dani! I get sooo sick of people waiting, wishing, hoping, but never doing anything about it. It's really nice to hear someone tell people to get off their duff and DO something! You rock!

Jay - To repeat what I just tweeted to you, YOU rock. Thanks for the great comment. I agree that there's nothing worse than listening to someone bitch about something but do absolutely nothing to change it (and, yes, I've been guilty of this myself). I'm determined to change old patterns and to DO something!

Someday, someday! This post made me think about so many things...I do have a list of things I want "someday". However, I am actually in goal-getting mode right now, but sometimes I still feel stalled. I make vision boards of what I want to get, I write down goals and when I want to achieve them by, and just yesterday I did an exercise where I wrote down my "ideal day", which I pictured to be three years in the future, and then worked backwards from that day until now to see what I should be doing. Answer: Writing a book and trying to get it published! Thinking positive! Finding more people to coach! Sometimes I feel like I can do anything in the world, sometimes my own worry gets in the way of my dreams.

PS - I LOVE that video; I've never seen it before because I have no MTV. But I do love Gwenny-Gwen-Gwen.

I'm going to play the role of my own fairy godmother and grant my own wishes. -----> Loved that (i´m picturing a fairy grandmother putting her magic wand on her own head haha)
I think writing all our ¨somedays¨ like you did is a great first step, from there we just have to set priorities and start figuring out what we can do NOW, then HOW, and there we are.
Thanks for another great, inspiring post :)

The other thing that goes with this 'someday syndrome' is 'waiting until the time is right'. In fact we always have everything we need right now, so as you say, 'someday' is an illusion!

I'm reminded of the old joke (I think it fits with the theme!) where a man is sitting on a house roof in the middle of a flood praying to God to save him.

Along comes a rescue boat. He refuses to get in because he's put his faith in God to save him.

Along comes a rescue helicopter and again he refuses to go because he knows God will save him.

The water rises higher and he drowns.

In heaven he confronts God and angrily asks why God didn't save him.

God shakes his/her head and says:

"I sent you a boat! I sent you a helicopter! What more did you want?"

Jen - I'm so glad I could share the video with you. I LOVE Gwen and I LOVE Alice in Wonderland and I LOVE positive, encouraging messages so this video is definitely one of my favorites...I'm with you in that my worry, or a sense of being overwhelmed, gets in the way of my dreams, but I really do think both of us will get published. I can feel it!!

Rosa - I LOVE the image of a fairy godmother putting a wand on her own head. That's great. I'm glad you liked the post and I hope it has inspired you to make your wishes come true!

Ian - Someday IS an illusion. Thanks for sharing that joke because it definitely fits in with the theme. So many of us are waiting for the perfect time to do something and there is no "perfect" time. The only time we have is NOW.

Nice post and some good thoughts. I think what helps me is to prioritize. You can't do everything at once. So you have to pick and choose what's the most important thing you want to do right now. And the second thing that helps me is baby steps. Sometimes big goals are daunting. Baby steps helps.

Lately I've been all about saying yes. Just doing it, making it happen, finding a way, and insisting on moving forward. Still, my somedays look like this...

Someday I'll write a cookbook
Someday I'll have a baby
Someday I'll visit Italy

My Daisy List is what stops me saying someday. Especially as I've put it out there for all and asundry!

Much like you've outlined, I've decided what I want to do, written it down, made myself accountable (by putting it out there), worked out the "how" of a couple of them (actually often the "how" just shows up) and started taking steps.

I can't tell you how awesome it is to accomplish something you've always wanted to do. Someday is today!!

Great post Dani. I've been a victim of someday syndrome for a long time, but I think I'm making alot of progress in moving out of it lately - yay!

And I second Vi's point: prioritise and baby steps. Trying to do everything now can become overwhelming, and that can lead to (yet again) postponing things till someday. Prioritising requires us to decide what we're going to let go of in order to do what we want to do now. Cos unless we're sitting on our asses doing nothing at all, (which of course we're not ;-) then we've got to let something go in order to make room for something new.

Vi - Great point. Prioritizing is so important and so are baby steps. That's the great thing about #2. You can break down what you need to do into smaller and smaller steps to make it more manageable.

Michelle - I completely believe you will do ALL of those things. Believe in yourself and it WILL happen!

Sami - Your Daisy List is a great example of what I wrote in this post put into action. I love reading about how you cross things off your list and I think it's a great idea to hold yourself accountable by writing about it online.

Hilda - I think we all suffer from "someday syndrome" sometimes, but I do believe that Vi makes some great points in that if we prioritize and take baby steps we'll be a lot more likely to reach our goals.

Good advice. I have no tips to share as I'm the empress of procrastination, to my shame. But I do have a friend who changed jobs TWICE as a result of pop songs inspiring him. One was the Gwen Stefani song you mentioned and the other was Jump by Madonna. It's worked out well for him... I wish I was so easily motivated! 'Someday' I might be. (arf... no no, you're right, I KNOW you're right... seize the day.)

Queenie - That's so interesting about your friend, changing careers because of pop songs. I've definitely wanted to do things when I've heard songs but I'm never quite THAT determined. Though I do believe the time is now, I do think that we all have to do things when we're ready to. Forcing things never works!

I LOVE this post --- so inspiring! fantastic. thank you ;)

Shannon - You're welcome! :) I'm glad you were inspired by the post. Thanks for leaving a comment!

this is really just what i needed to read right now. i'm actually about to graduate college & this is my last real summer of "freedom" - so there are so many things i PROMISED myself i'd do (set up an online portfolio, exercise & finally get healthy, etc. etc. ). but after reading this, i realized these things just aren't going to happen if i don't MAKE them happen. this post was really the little kick i needed. thanks again for this!

I need an apple like that! The truth is, all of us have that apple, most just choose not to take a bite ;)

Sometimes I think procrastination is the human condition since we all seem to suffer from it. Your article reminds me that time is in limited quantities. Thank you!

Rock on! You know I'm all over a post about kicking Someday's butt!

I love your three steps to getting rid of Somedays. Awareness, choice and action. Woo hoo!

Great insights, great pointers.

Happily ever Now.

It's all we have, and all we need.

Very inspiring. I have just discovered your blog and am very impressed. Great food for thought here...

"I'm going to tell someday off..." I laughed at that phrase - I love it!

Baby steps are better than no steps. That's how I usually get started on flipping "someday" the bird.

Erica - I'm so glad this post provided that little extra bit of motivation you needed. You're completely right. Nothing will happen unless you MAKE it happen!

Melissa - You're right. We all have the apple and the ability to make our wishes come true, but often we are too scared to bite into it!

Anally - Our time is very limited which is why, if we want something done, we must do it NOW.

Alex - You KNOW I was thinking about you and your site when I wrote this post! There's no way I can think about the word "someday" without your site coming to mind. I knew you'd like this one and I'm so glad you commented on it. Thank you!

Kaushik - Oh yes, happily ever after now! That's what we have and what we need -- great point!

Ruby - I'm so glad you found Positively Present and enjoyed the post. :)

Megan - Haha. I'm glad I could make you laugh! And I think baby steps are a GREAT way to flip the bird to someday.

Guess what? You didn't have to wait for 'someday' to write this article. I'm glad you didn't. :-) Cheers for more to-days of joy.

I Take Off the Mask - Good point! I could've postponed writing this post, but I didn't. Yay for today! :)

This is such a GREAT post. I doubt that there's anyone who canNOT relate to this. Well, the people who can't relate are probably the Richard Branson's of the world.

I'm sure I'll refer back to this post over and over again, although the message is pretty simple: Get out there and DO...

Lately I've been having a hard time setting long-term career goals for myself. I simply have far too many things I'd want to do (mostly all in the arts, where I'm most likely to live in someone's attic, starving). I never had focus on one thing in my entire life because there was never one thing that I really excelled at or desired more than any others. So, I'm going to do this with my smaller, but no less important, goal which is to be myself inside and out. Thank you for the post, Dani! (You mind-reader, you)

Great post. You're right. Someday sucks. But we all keep holding off on things we think we want to do. The amount of excuses we can make for anything in our lives is pretty bad. It's amazing what will happen in our lives if we just begin to act on our somedays :)

Gwen rocks.

Believe it or not, the 4 magic pieces that helped me switch from someday to now are:
1. watching Peaceful warrior
2. reading Work from the Inside Out
3. watching the Last Lecture
4. watching a video on Stumbling on Happiness

For whatever reason, that was the magic combo and it just keeps getting re-affirmed the more I learn. Writing up lessons learned from Peaceful Warrior gave me tremendous insights, as well as helped remind me of what I already know to be true. I never read the book, and the movie is so simple, but like anything, it's what you make of it.

YES!! Someday is no longer in my vocabulary and I have you to thank for it!

Hi Dani .. great post - yes .. just get on and do it. Someday is too too late .. or may never come as time runs out quicker than we expect ..

Thanks - Hilary Melton-Butcher
Positive Letters

Kirwin - So glad you related to the post and felt that others would relate too. That makes me feel like I've written something worthwhile. Doing is the only way to get things done. Sounds simple enough but, as I'm sure you know, it's a LOT easier said than done.

Ia - That is a GREAT goal and, in working towards that goal, I bet you will figure out exactly what you want to focus on in the long-run.

Srinivas - You're right. It's so amazing what happens when we start DOING and stop WISHING. I really hope this post reaches out to people who sit around hoping for things to change and helps them to realize that it's up to them to choose to do!

J.D. - Thanks for sharing those four things with us. I've read The Last Lecture, but I'm not familiar with the other three. Sounds like I need to check out this magic combo you've got goin' on!

Tabitha - AWESOME! Someday should be a four letter word. All we have is right now.

Hilary - Yes, if we wait until someday to grant our own wishes it may be too late. Today is the day to do what we want to do!

After surviving breast cancer, I removed Someday from my personal dictionary. I've accomplished more in the last 5 years of my life (including marrying the love of my life!) than in the previous 41.

My passions are clearly posted - what I want to accomplish NOW and what I'm doing to get there. (I think you've read the my windfall of successes after taking The Passion Test)

I have a Bucket List...and I have the other list...the one that has a list of things I never want to do, like SCUBA diving...

Oh yes...what's your Twitter name? I'll look you up...I'm ToolBoxGirl

Great post Dani, it reminded me of an old friend of mine, he used to always say, "Why not today!"
He is gone now, but I am sure he would have love this post.
Thanks for sharing.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action

Peggy - Your comment is so inspiring! I hope that people read it and realize how important it is to seize the day. I love the idea of a bucket list (though I haven't seen that movie yet...). You can find me on Twitter by clicking the Twitter icon at the top of the page, or look for me as "positivepresent."

Giovanna - Why not today! I love it. Your friend was very, very wise.

I think prioritizing is the key. I have recently started using the "Most Important Tasks" strategy and it has been working pretty well to break my someday syndrome.

If you focus on getting the most important tasks done first, you will feel a sense of achievement everyday. You will feel that your life is going according to your plan.

Tesheen - Great point! I also try to get the most important tasks done on my list first too. Another strategy I like to use is to do the tasks I want to do least first so that I get them out of the way. Thanks for your comment!

Love this post. I think planning a trip to Paris (& actually going) last May helped me throw "someday" out of my vocabulary. Part me felt like it wasn't the right time (academic book wasn't finished), there wasn't enough money for such an impulsive adventure, my french was really bad, etc, etc. But going really showed me that all we have is now so why not dive in to whatever even if it doesn't make complete sense at the moment.

Bookmarking this post in case I start somedaying & need a cure! :)

Revisionista - Thanks for your comment! What a great story about how you wanted to put of going to France but you didn't. That's great. We all need to take a lesson from your a seize the day more!

This was a great post. I just found it via a recent post, but I needed to hear it. Thank you!

Jennifer - Thank you! I'm glad you came across this post. It's one of my favorites. Thanks for reading!

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