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new year, same me: 6 stay-the-same resolutions


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"Many people look forward to the new year
 for a new start on old habits." 

Author Unknown

Happy New Year! Around this time of year, many people are preparing resolutions and, as a result, thinking about all of things they want to change in their lives. But what about all of the things they don't want to change? What about all of the things that have happened in 2009 -- and over the past decade -- that have been great? Instead of focusing on what I want to change in my life (which is something I spent a whole lot of 2009 doing), I'm going to think about what I want to keep the same as I move forward to 2010. It's been a pretty great year for me and, while I always believe there's room for improvement, today I'm going to zero in on the things that I want to keep the same in the next decade. 

My 6 Stay-The-Same Resolutions for 2010

Be positive. I can't I was positive for the decade, but I was definitely much more positive in 2009 and I want to keep that attitude up! It hasn't necessarily been an easy one for me to embrace or maintain, but I'm looking forward to putting in the effort to make sure that 2010 is just as positive -- if not more so! -- than 2009. 

Stay present. While I did find being positive a little tricky this year, staying present was really hard work. With a mind that's always racing and a million things I thought I should be doing, it was pretty difficult for me to stay in the moment. But, more often than not, I did it and I'm really proud of myself for that. I hope to keep living in the moment in 2010. 

Enjoy life. We all know the old idea that life is short, but how often do we really act like it's short? This year, having spent a lot of time focusing on happiness and positivity, I've learned how to enjoy life more. I've learned how to spend more time in the moment, doing the things I want to be doing (like writing this blog!) and it's made my life so much better. Enjoying life is one of the best things I can continue doing, both for myself and for the sake of those around me. 

Keep learning. Learning is one of my favorite things to do and, though I'm no longer a student, I still find ways to learn. I read and write and listen. I learn more about myself and about other people every single day. Sometimes all of this learning is tiring and can feel overwhelming, but I don't know where (or who!) I'd be without it. I hope that for 2010 -- and for the rest of my life -- I keep learning more about myself and the world because I really do believe that new knowledge makes me a better person. 

Be passionate. I've always been a passionate sort of person. No matter what I'm doing, if I'm into it, I'm into it. If I really care about something or love a task, I will put my whole heart into it and give it my all. In the past, I was passionate about some things that weren't so good for me, but in 2009 I started using that passion in a positive way and I'm looking forward to find new, positive things to be passionate about in the upcoming year. 

Celebrate others.
I'm the card-giving, thank-you-writing type. I try to remember the little things and I honestly feel amazingly happy when something good happens to someone I love or care about. I do my best to celebrate others and, over the past year, I've really tried to look for the good not only in those I love but in everyone. (Not easy, but really useful if you're trying to live a happier life.) When I celebrate others, I feel happy and I want to keep up that happy feeling in 2010. 

While looking through an old journal the other day, I found a set of resolutions and I was shocked at howI generic and stereotypical they were. Things like "Lose 10 pounds" and "Shop less" and "Stop drinking" are things that seem silly to me now -- not because they aren't good goals, but because they aren't the kind of goals I now set for myself. Even more shocking to me was the heading above these resolutions: "Resolutions I Wish I Could Keep." Wow. How little I believed in myself, with a title like that! Since the year I wrote those, I've done all of those things and so, so much more. When I re-read those resolutions and the title that pathetically rested above them, I felt sad. I felt sad for my old self, who didn't know that in a few short years, she would be truly, honestly happy and doing things that made her feel like a positive, useful person. I wish I could go back to that January 1st and tell the girl writing in that journal what her life would be like at the turn of the decade, to let her know that she will be happy and she will be productive and she will be doing so many of the things she'd always dreamed about. Of course, we can't go back. We can only live in this moment. 

In this moment, I am so thrilled that I can look back on 2009 and, instead of thinking about all of the horrible things I did or all of the habits I desperately need to change, I am writing about all of the things I want to stay the same. I never in a million years thought I would launch a new year with all of the things I liked about the year before. Of course, I can think of things I want to change or goals I want to set for myself, but, generally speaking, I am pretty happy with 2009 and all of the wonderful (sometimes mystifying) changes I went through. While I'm tempted to look to the future and think of all of the things that could (or should) happen in 2010, I'm going to stick to one of my stay-the-same resolutions today and stay present. I have a lot of hope for 2010, but today, this moment, is all I can be certain of so I'm going to focus on today. I'm going to live in the present, positively.     


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I love your take on New Year's. Celebrate YOU and how awesome you are!! As Lance would say, shine on.


Happy New Year's!

I think it's great you focused on what to carry forward.

Excellent post. There's too many of the new years resolution/wrap-up posts, I don't want to see any more of them, so it was a refreshing change to see you put up something else.

While the last decade wasn't perfect, I still think it was completely worth it. Sometimes it may seem like we didn't get much "done", but it all leads somewhere if you're willing to listen.

Happy New Year! I completely agree with the resolution to keep learning, this is so important to me. In fact I agree with them all. In think I forget to live 'in the moment' and this is one of the hardest for me, too. Anyway, I am definitely looking forward to a very positive 2010 :D

Congratulations on this beautiful and life-affirming perspective. I am proud to say that we are in the same camp. In terms of resolutions, none really.... A vow (as you may see on my blog) but otherwise I appreciate the growth that has happened this year. It has been all about "deepening" for me. Deepening my commitment to love and compassion, patience, kindness. To silence and reflection and cultivating the wise woman within. Be-ing, rather than Do-ing. And on we go with compassion for ourselves.

I wish you many blessings for 2010, all that your heart can hold. Namaste.

In 2009 I decided to end my 17 year marriage. Now, I could look back and say that this was the worst year of my life...but, what I need to acknowledge for myself, is that it was the most empowering year of my life.

I look forward to 2010 with renewed hope...for myself, and for my family, including my soon to be ex husband.

I plan to carry forward this feeling of empowerment and stay on the path of greater joy I have started.

Of course, losing 10 lbs would be nice too...but I think THAT will come!! LOL

Hey Dani!

I love how you approach New Year's - by not seeking to do too much and try and stay the same you. Of course, we both know that change is inevitable, but a few resolutions to keep you you is admirable - because you're celebrating who you are. That's simply wonderful.

Other than that, I can't really find any more words to say. You've got me tongue-tied.

Have a wonderful day and 2010!

Yay! I love that you took this perspective. I am not good at resolutions...I can set some goals, but I'm not always sure why we need an actual calendar year to do that! And who we are is amazing, amazing - it's only something to build upon. If you've found something that works, then why change it? BTW, I'm at a retreat right now about staying mindful and present. Will write about it next week, but all I can think about is you and your words of staying positively present :) Thanks Dani!

Those are a majority of the same things i am going to continue doing.
Great post like always

Thanks for this post Dani - as folks have said in the comments, it's refreshing to have your perspective on keeping some things the same, and just honouring where you are right now, at a time of year when there's so much emphasis on resolutions and projecting into the future. Wishing you a wonderful 2010, and ever more happiness on your growing journey.

Hayden - Happy new year! It's been great connecting with you in 2009 and I'm looking forward to celebrating more of our awesomeness (or is it awesomenesses?) in 2010!

J.D. - Me too. I think sometimes we get so caught up in what we're doing wrong that we forget what we're doing right. Happy new year!

Henri - I'm so glad you liked my take on new year's. I just started to realize that it was really negative to think about all of the things that weren't perfect and that needed to be changed. It's refreshing to think, instead, about what I'm doing right and what I want to keep doing.

Penny - Learning and living in the moment (two things that can go hand in hand) are elements I really want to focus on this year. I definitely struggle to stay in the moment sometimes, but I've been getting better at it and hope I can keep up the hard work I've been doing in 2010!

Jan - Thank you! Last year I definitely focused a lot more on being and, in the process, found that I was doing even more than I ever thought I could. Being in the moment is something I absolutely want to continue focusing on in 2010. Hope your New Year has been happy so far!

Dawn - It sounds like 2010 was a big year for you -- both in a negative and positive way. What I love about your comment is your attitude to focus on the positive and realize that the past year has really empowered you. I'm sure the empowered feeling you've experienced will help you to make 2010 a great year for you and all of the goals you have (like losing those 10 lbs, haha) will come a lot more easily to you!

Brett - Thank you! :) I know that there are things I could (and hopefully will) change, but I also know that I don't want to focus too much on what needs to be changed. Instead, I'd like to be more conscious of what already is and what's happening in my life right now. Happy 2010 to you!

Laura - I'm much better at goals than resolutions as well, and I feel like I'm certain I will make (and hopefully reach!) many goals this year. However, I think it really was more beneficial for me to focus on what is now and what I like about my life than what I don't like. Can't wait to hear all about your retreat! Sounds awesome!

Josten - That's great! It's good to keep doing the things that are working for you in your life. Thanks for your comment!

Catherine - I'm so glad you found this perspective refreshing. As I said in some of the other comments, I really wanted to find a more positive way to launch the new year. I just couldn't see myself spending tons of time thinking about what I wanted to be different in my life when there were so many good things to celebrate about 2009. I hope you have a fantastic 2010 filled with lots and lots of happiness!

Hi Dani,

Crazy times over the Christmas holidays and new year. My 3 kids are on holiday for 6 weeks but the show must go on and I haven't missed a blog post so far. I've put up over 100 posts since I started in March 09 so I'm pretty proud of that!

Just wanted to let you know that I mentioned you as one of my favourite bloggers here: http://www.getinthehotspot.com/2009/12/24/inaugural-giths-2009-blogging-awards/ Thanks for inspiring me to keep blogging and keep striving to write better.

Keep up your great work in 2010 - I'm sure it's going to be a great year. Let me know if there's anything I can help you with and I'll be happy to lend a hand.

All the best,


Ps. Tried to email you this but having problems with the email link on your site....

Fantastic reflections! :) Very splendid.

I like what you say about continuing to learn. It's so easy for us to slip into the routine of focusing purely on our work and family and forgetting to allow ourselves time to learn more, become aware, exercise passion and heighten our knowledge. Knowledge inspires us to be better.

Love this groundbreaking idea! It's thrilling to see someone want to carry on with who they are rather than who the are not.

Annabel - Thank you SO much for the award. It means a lot to me! :) Thanks also for being such a great supporter of Positively Present. :)

Em - Thank you! I'm so glad you enjoyed them!

Kate - Learning is so important and something I never think we should give up on. Knowledge definitely inspires us to be better. That's a great way of putting it!

Kiki - So glad to hear you liked it! :) I really wanted to focus on the positive aspects of 2009 and thought this was a great way to start off 2010!

Dani, I like these things that you are carrying forward. I going to carry forward a random act of kindness every day.

Syd - Thanks! I think doing a random act of kindness is a great idea. It's something that makes your day better AND someone else's day too! Great thing to carry forward in the New Year!

Kudos to you for making stay-the-same resolutions. I like your idea there. I, too, had a few goals from last year that I am continuing this year, like my increased exercise schedule and better eating habits.

Laura - Thanks! It's great to continue goals and to keep doing the things that are positive for us. That doesn't mean there's not room for improvement, but it helps to make the improving easier.

Love, love, love your new-and-improved resolutions. So happy for you. New-and-improved I say because even though the words are the same on the page, YOU are new-and-improved by virtue of your dedication to these intentions this past year. THAT is exciting.

Positively moving forward in the same resolutions is such a great example, and definitely gives me something to think about. I think my "possibilities" (what I call my resolutions), stay pretty similar too, but I change the words up a bit to add a bit of spark. Hmm... Something for me to think about.

I adore your "celebrating others" intention. Yay! How beautiful and rich for our world to have a wise soul like you who rejoices in the light and happiness of others without feeling it diminishes your glow.

Celebrating and cheering you, my blogging amiga. My sincere thanks for your openness, your generosity in sharing your light, your wisdom, and your AWESOME intentions!!

Melanee - Thanks for your great comment! I love that you call them new-and-improved even though I'm sticking with some of the things I was doing last year; it's a great way of thinking about them. I also like how you have "possibilities" instead of resolutions and how you keep them consistent while adding "a bit of spark." That's definitely the way to do it! I definitely think celebrating others is a really important thing to do. It actually brings me a lot of happiness and, as a bonus, others feel happier too! Thank YOU for your great comment. I really appreciate the interaction, feedback, and encouragement. Happy New Year!

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