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[love edition] words to live by: jump then fall

  positive quote

I like the way you sound in the morning,

we're on the phone and without a warning

I realize your laugh is the best sound I have ever heard


I like the way I can't keep my focus,

I watch you talk you didn't notice

I hear the words but all I can think is we should be together


every time you smile, I smile

and every time you shine, I'll shine for you


whoa oh I'm feeling you baby

don't be afraid to jump then fall, jump then fall into me 


baby, I'm never gonna leave you,

say that you wanna be with me too

cause I'm gonna stay through it all so jump then fall


well I like the way your hair falls in your face

you got the keys to me I love each freckle on your face, oh,

I've never been so wrapped up, 

honey, I like the way you're everything I've ever wanted


I had time to think it oh-over and all I can say is come closer,

take a deep breath and jump then fall into me


every time you smile, I smile

and every time you shine, I'll shine for you


whoa oh I'm feeling you baby

don't be afraid to jump then fall, jump then fall into me 


baby, I'm never gonna leave you,

say that you wanna be with me too

cause I'm gonna stay through it all so jump then fall


the bottoms gonna drop out from under our feet

I'll catch you, I'll catch you

when people say things that bring you to your knees,

I'll catch you

the time is gonna come when you're so mad you could cry

but I'll hold you through the night until you smile


whoa oh I need you baby

don't be afraid please

jump then fall, jump then fall into me


baby, I'm never gonna leave you,

say that you wanna be with me too

cause I'm gonna through it all so jump then fall


jump then fall baby

jump then fall into me, into me


every time you smile, I smile

and every time you shine, I'll shine

and every time you're here baby, I'll show you, I'll show you

you can jump then fall, jump then fall, jump then fall into me, into me 

Taylor Swift
"Jump Then Fall" 


"Words To Live By" is a segment on Positively Present that features my favorite quote or lyrics from the week. Every Sunday I post a quote or lyrics that have inspired me with the hope that they'll inspire you too. This month I've created a special "Love Edition" of "Words To Live By," featuring lyrics from my favorite love songs. Comments will be closed on these posts, but feel free to tweet the post if you enjoy it or contact me via Twitter.

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positive reading

"The more you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn, the more places you'll go."

Dr. Seuss

Since I started Positively Present over a year ago, I've spent a great deal of time reading blogs and articles related to positivity and living a happier, more present life. Since today is the last post in the Positively Present Month of Love series, I thought I'd share with you all of the blog posts and articles I've fallen in love with over the course of the past year. This list by no means includes all of my favorite posts (there are just too many great ones out there!), but it's a good starting point. Enjoy the articles and feel free to share those that I missed in the comments section! 

1 Huge Step Toward Happiness

2 Steps for Improving Your Life

3 Pieces of Advice I'd Give My 18-Year-Old Self

3 Secrets for Feeling Positive About Life

3 Tips to Calm Anxiety

4 Tips for Saying "No"

4 Ways to Make Time Work for You

5 Phases of Personal Development

5 Powerful Habits that Will Change Your Life

5 Reasons to Always Be Positive

5 Ways to Be Happier

6 Steps for Finding Your True Purpose

6 Traits that Separate Winners from Whiners

6 Ways to Be Positive in Any Situation

6 Ways to Conquer Fear

7 Proven Ways to Live a Happy Life

7 Ways to Find Happiness Through Simplicity

7 Ways to Make Your Life More Meaningful

8 Helpful Ways to Deal with Critical People

8 Tips for Maintaining Friendships

8 Ways to Increase Your Joy Factor

8 Ways to Stay Present and Focused

9 Steps for Being Decisive

9 Tips for Feeling Better in a Crisis

9 Ways to Overcome Jealousy

10 Benefits of Positive Thinking

10 Tips for Navigating the Waters of Life

10 Ways to Connect with Others

10 Ways to Have Peaceful, Loving Relationships

10 Ways to Turn a Bad Mood Good

11 Questions that Lead to Gratitude

11 Simple Ways to Spread Positivity

12 Powerful Life Lessons

12 Tips to Create a Happier Workplace

13 Reasons to Stop Complaining

13 Tips for Dealing with a Lousy Day

14 Facts about Happiness

15 Questions to Discover Your Personal Mission

15 Ways to Overcome Anger

19 Tips for Cheering Yourself Up

20 Powerful Beliefs to Push You To Success

23 Phrases to Help You Fight Right

24 Tips for Being Happy at Work

25 Healthy Habits that Can Change Your Life

27 Questions to Help You Find Yourself

28 Steps to a Positive and Successful Life

39 Ways to Boost Your Mood

40 Ways to Let Go and Feel Less Pain
50 Simple Steps to Happiness

50 Ways to Get Over Failure

50 Ways You Can Create a Better Day

60 Ways to Become the Person You Love

70 Ideas for Enjoy Life More Today

100 Ways You Can Start Loving Yourself Right Now

101 Things Worth More Than Your Bank Account

121 Ways to Improve Your Life and Be More Awesome

I hope you take some time to go through these links and check them out. These articles have really inspired me and I know they would inspire you too. Thank you to all of the great writers who wrote these and shared their thoughts. It takes a lot of work to write and article and I love the effort these authors put in. Thank you, writers! Your work is loved!

Are there any must-read articles that I missed?
Please link to them in the comments section!

let go & let it in: how to stop being afraid of love


"The end of fear is where we begin the moment we decided to let love in
There's nothing we can do about the things we have to do without
The only way to feel again is let love in."

Goo Goo Dolls

If you were sitting in a room filled of people and asked, "How many of you want to be in love?" I bet you wouldn't be at all surprised if most hands in the room shot up quickly and without hesitation. Whether or not we think about it on a daily basis, love is something we all want. In fact, most things we work toward in life are based on the idea of wanting love and acceptance. We want to be successful and well-liked, but, above all, what we all really want is to be loved. However, much as we all want it, so many of us are actually really scared to get it. The way some people feel about love reminds me of the way my dog Bella acts when you give her a bone. She really wants the bone, but when you hand it to her, she won't take it. For whatever reason, she shiess away from it, looking at it warily from the corner of her eye. If you set it down on the floor, she'll run up to it and snatch it quickly, trotting it over to the couch or carpet where she promptly begins chewing. She wants the bone -- she really does -- but for some reasons she's scared of it. A lot of people are like that when it comes to love.

If you're lucky enough to be offered love, it doesn't always mean that you're going to welcome it into your life with open arms. Like my pup Bella, you may look at it from the corner of your eye, sizing it up and wondering whether or not you should take it. Why? Because you're afraid. Many, many people are afraid to love because they are afraid of getting hurt or they're afraid their not good enough or they're afraid they aren't capable of love themselves or they're afraid for reasons I've never heard of or reasons that are uniquely their own. In the past I've struggled with accepting love in my life. Like everyone, I've desperately wanted love, but, like so many, I've had difficulty letting others get close to me. Why? Because I was afraid that, inevitably, they would hurt me. Just like Bella with the bone, I was afraid of taking something I knew I wanted for fear that I would be hurt by it. (Also like Bella, once the love was left there for me to take from the safety of the floor, no longer being waved in my face, I found that I could reach down and grab it on my own, at my own pace.)

For a very long time, I was afraid of love. That doesn't mean I wasn't in love or I wasn't spending time loving others, but it does mean that during those times I was living in fear. I was loving but, at the same time, I was so afraid of losing. I held back for fear of love's loss holding me back. For me, and for many others,  letting love into my life was really difficult. It seems silly because, when you think about it, who wouldn't want love? We all want it but, for a variety of reasons, it can sometimes feel like the hardest thing in the world -- even when the love itself feels so good. I've found that letting love in can actually require you to be brave, to open up to someone else in a way that you never thought you wanted to, and to believe that you can trust another person. Doing these things can be very challenging and, positive as love can be, the potential loss of it can also be very intimidating.

Let's bring it back to Bella, shall we? Anyone who has a pet knows that, at some point, that pet is going to die. My sweet little Bella is turning six next month and that means that, quite possibly, about half her life is over. Now, that sounds like an incredibly morbid thought I know, but think about it this way: just because I know my best buddy is going to die does that mean I'm going to stop loving her and playing with her and spending as much time with her as I can? Just because I know she's going to be gone at some point (yep, my eyes are welling up already at the thought of it) and I will be heartbroken, does that mean I shouldn't allow her little awesomeness to be a part of my life? No. Knowing that I'm going to lose her, in fact,  makes me love her all the more and makes me take extra care with making the most of my time with her (what if we thought that way with all of our relationships?).

The point is: losing love sucks and I don't disagree with that for a minute. Cliche as it might be, that old quote "It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" really is true. Losing love can be terrible and terrifying, but does it mean we shouldn't love? Certainly not! I understand from experience how hard it can be to open your heart and mind to the idea of love, but every second of love is worth it, even if it ends in heartache. So, when faced with the sometimes scary opportunity of letting love into your life, ask yourself these questions:

  1. What do I really have to lose? It might seem like you have a lot to lose if you're considering your last heartbreak or thinking about all of those media-generated images of people who have had their hearts broken, but, really, what is it that you will lose if you actually let someone love you and it doesn't work out? You'll have to deal with some difficult times and you'll certainly feel rough at some points, but will it be the end of the world? No. You will survive and, if you hold back and don't let love in, you will have missed out on all of the wonderful things that come along with being in love. It can be very easy to focus on the negatives in any situation when you feel afraid. It can be much easier to just steer clear of anything that might potential make you feel bad, but, when you think about it logically, the good most often overrides the bad when it comes to love. 

  2. What's the worst that could happen? I know a broken heart may seem like the worse thing that could happen (and, yes, it's up there in terms of pain), but will you be unable to go on if you let love in and it doesn't work out the way you planned? Nope. You'll be able to survive. As wonderful and amazing and inspiring as love is, it's not everything when it comes to life. Life is about so many things and, while love does play a big part in many aspects of life, without it you won't wither away and die. Without it, your life won't have lost it's meaning. Whatever you think the worst thing that could happen is, remember that love is better than that and it's worth the risk. Every single time.

  3. What can I gain from love? Now, let's focus on the positives for a moment. Love, as anyone who has ever been in love knows, is A-W-E-S-O-M-E. It's one of the best things ever. Not only does it make you feel like a million bucks, but it also has health benefits and generally puts you in a much better, more positive, frame of mind. You can gain a lot from love. When someone in your life really loves you, that person will be there to support you. That person will stand by you and lift you up when you're feeling down. Check out the post "9 Positive Aspects of Love" to read all about how you can benefit from love. Focusing on the positives may help you to see that love really is worth the risk of heartache.

  4. What am I really afraid of? When you begin with the idea that you're afraid of love (or anything for that matter), it's important to take another look at your fear and really try to understand it. Are you afraid of letting love in because you don't trust people? Are you afraid of letting love in because you don't feel as though you love yourself? Are you afraid of letting love in because you don't know if you could really love someone else? There are many reasons you might be holding back and it's important to take a look at the reasons behind your fears and try to deal with those. If you have issues with trust or self-love, for example, it's important to focus on those and work toward understanding yourself better. Once you do that, it'll be a lot easier to let love into your life.

  5. How can I let go of my fears? After you determine what you're really afraid of -- and, yes, you must really learn to listen to yourself and be completely 100% honest with yourself with this one -- you can begin to figure out how you can let go of your fears and focus on the positive aspects of love (which, in reality, out weigh the negatives, though it may not always seem that way if you're in heartbreak mode). Remember: even when things don't work out, all of those good love-powered highs will have been worth it. When you love someone, it may feel like you're giving away a part of yourself, but really you're simply allowing that part of yourself to go out into the world and grow stronger. You have much more to gain than you do to lose.


Once you've given those questions some thought, I bet you'll find that it will be a lot easier to let that love in. Like Bella with her bone, you might be scared to take love when it's offered to you. You might fear it will hurt you or you will hurt others or that, for whatever reason, you don't deserve it. You might struggle with trusting others, trusting yourself, or even trusting love. But listen up! Love is amazing. It's one of the best things in the whole world and it's not every day that it comes along and shines it's bright light on your world. If you're given the chance to love and be loved, take it. No matter how difficult it is, no matter what you have to do to make it happen, let go of your fears and let love in.

Do you struggle with accepting love?
How do you let love into your life?


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