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Man, I love these acronyms :). The first one, laughter, really got my attention. It's a simple way to generate positive energy and create an upward spiral of positivity.


I LOVE this post Dani. You focus right on the essence of true love here - laughter and joy, and the things we can do to help others feel loved and fulfilled. There is a quote from The Prophet that keeps buzzing in my head: 'work is love made visible.' I'm trying to remind myself of it when I get bored or resentful doing everyday tasks - that anything done to create and sustain life is an expression of love.

This is a great reminder about what love is all about... I should know... like a lot of people, I could use reminders all the time! It's so easy to get caught up with the Valentines Day fiasco, so much that we end up losing sight of the intentions. And as a single person, it's so easy to get angry about Valentines Day when in fact this is an Opportunity (as you've put it) to express it even more... and it doesn't have to be limited to a significant other or even someone you personally know.
Thanks so much, Dani... I am truly, positively inspired by this!

Eduard - Thank you! I'm glad you liked the post and it makes me happy to know that laughter stuck out to you. It's really important and some people don't think about it enough.

Catherine - Thanks so much! That's a great quote. You've brought up a great point about how important all of our actions are. In essence everything we do can be an act of love.

Valerie - I think we can all use reminders about the true meaning of love from time to time. It can definitely be frustrating to think about love around this time of the year when the emphasis is on the romantic kind of love, but love is really so much more than romance and there are so many ways we can share it with others (and even with ourselves!).

Those area really great examples. Different. Get you thinking, sort of expressions of love. I like the idea of opportunities. I think that there are opportunities around us every day. Often we lack the self-courage to see those chances for what they really are. Sometimes it takes someone close to us, someone who loves us, to show us the way to those opportunities, or maybe kick us in the pants to get going on them! I never thought of it that way. I will be looking forward to seeing all that you have to share about LOVE, Dani. Enjoy the day!

Erin - Thanks! I'm glad you liked the examples. Love comes in all different forms and, therefore, can be expressed in so many different ways. Opportunities are definitely so important and it's important that we show love to others and to ourselves by looking for and giving others opportunities. Hope your day is filled with love!

This post is absolutely amazing, Dani. Thank you so much for this. It is exactly what I needed to read today.

Ellecubed - Thank you so much! :) I'm so glad this post hit home for you today and that it was what you needed. I think I needed to write it so it makes me happy that someone else got so much from it too.

Hi Dani,
Timely post for this month.. got me thinking about the very subject as well...
Here's me thinking out loud :-0)

love is when the world looks way better and everything is happier even if your life kinda sucks... that one person can make EVERYTHING look possible and everything seems way too perfect. love makes you a happier & better person, you try to be better for someone else. and that one person might not be perfect but you see them perfectly and nothing, not one thing is wrong with them...

Love means treating others well.. Love means caring => Emotional Investment


Hi! Love the blog! Love the post about love. Love the title of your blog!!!! Its got me thinking...wouldnt our world be a great place if we tried to be more positively present? Personally, I am so tired of reading all the negative, violent news, seeing horrible images, destructive television, its just refreshing to take in content like yours!!! Its inspiring and thought-provoking. Last month, I started writing www.goodoodles.com. Its part of my walk down life's path and I sincerely hope, like you are beautifully doing, that my writing sends little ripples of positive out onto our seemingly disturbed waters. Or is it that the media just takes photos of those waters when they are disturbed? Cheers and happy Tues!

Perhsa - I'm glad this post got you thinking! Love is definitely something that makes the world better -- and it doesn't just have to be romantic love (though that's pretty wonderful too!). I really agree with what you wrote about love being an emotional investment. That's definitely what it is and that's one of the reasons it can be so hard sometimes.

April - Thank you!! I'm so glad that you found Positively Present! I was tired of my own negative view of the world, which is why, about a year ago, I started this blog and it's really helped me to look for and focus on the positive things in my life. Being positive about life has, in turn, helped me to stay more in the moment. I'm looking forward checking out your site. Keep spreading positivity! :)

Great post. Love all your posts. This post on love made my day. You always have the best advice.

I hate to have to ask but I sort of don't know what else to do, I was wondering if I could get your advice on something?
I've noticed my sister heading down the wrong path and making poor choices and it's starting to get much worse.
She goes out a lot and is involved in the 'party scene' and I know she has been on pills.
I've known a lot of people who do pills when they go out so I thought maybe she would get over the faze like the rest had but I think she's become addicted and she's getting into even harder drugs.
I found out that on new years she tried this new drug (I can't remember the name) but it's as bad as ice. So I'm really worried about her, she seems to think it's cool but I just don't know what to do about it. I don't want to have her hate me, she doesn't know that I know about it. I'm just confused and I'm worried. Would you have any idea what I could do? Sorry to have to ask, even if you just give a link to a website or something

Thanks xx

Very pretty post! I think one of the most important things to remember is that love comes in all shapes and forms - it isn't just a feeling between two human beings, but an expression of life as a whole.

Julia - Thank you! I'm so glad you liked this post and the posts on Positively Present. :) As far as your sister goes, it sounds like she's heading down a bad path. She needs to seek help either through a treatment program or through a therapist who is familiar with drug-related issues. Unfortunately, it really comes down to this basic fact: people can only get help if they want help. I know that there were periods of time in my life when other people really wanted to help me, but I didn't want to be helped. If I were in your shoes, I would go to a professional therapist and ask for advice on how to handle your sister's situation. Drug abuse is a very hard thing to deal with and it can be very frustrating for you if she doesn't want to get help. I'm no expert but I know therapy has helped me a lot in terms of dealing with my own issues as well as dealing with the issues concerning those I love. It's important to have a professional who can really help you sort through things.

Steven - Thanks! :) Love really does come in all different forms and sometimes (especially around this time of year) we limit ourselves by thinking of it in terms of romantic love. Love is, as you put so nicely, expression of life as a whole -- so much more than just a relationship between two people.

I like this quote: "Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two."
-St. Augustine

Syd - That is an amazing quote! Thank you so, so much for sharing that here. It really fits well with the post and has given me a lot to think about in terms of love. Thanks!

I made a vow to myself long ago that I was not going to "perform" my love for anyone (i.e. say it because I was asked to say it, amp things up to 110% when I didn't feel like it). It's not that I am a minimalist when it comes to love. I love to love. I love when it bubbles up by itself and feels amazing.

It is because of this that I have attracted those around me who appreciate this emotional honesty. If you feel it, you feel it. If you don't, then you are feeling something else -- something just as legitimate. Love is not the only feeling or expression that acts as a meeting place. People often bond more readily over pain, and boom! suddenly feel loved and loving.

The only way to be positively present (it seems to me) is to ALLOW oneself to be as one is. This love is free. This love comes at no price. This love has no rules to keep it in place. If we let go of it being necessary, then it is naturally there.

We do not make love. Love makes us. We are love. We are part of its design. If we stop trying to direct it or manage it, then it is there with no effort. Love is what this all is.

Benjamin - Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment. I agree that it's so important to be as you are and not to force yourself to be someone else. Love should be a free (not forced) feeling that comes naturally. Great comment. Thank you!

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