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Okay...I'll bite.
I really love to make personal adornments for my clients that are so uniquely them, that it doesn't even look like me. So by doing what I love, I am able to help others out. I have a passion for finding inspiration everywhere and bringing that out for others. My blog has allowed me to connect with people all over the world.
And your selfish quest for exposure, Oleg? It worked. I am a new follower.
Enjoy the day! Erin

I agree with you. If we were all a little more selfish, we'd be able to bring more to the world and to the lives of others. Great insight.


Thanks for the post.

While standard thinking is to view selfishness in a negative light, I agree with what you wrote in the post.

A friend of mine said that we should replace the word "selfish" with "self care." When you look at it this way, selfishness obviously turns into something much more positive.

I look at this whole issue from an Ayn Rand perspective of you have a moral obligation to pursue your own happiness. And I agree that the whole world ends up benifitting a lot more when you do.

Also, when you think about it, your thoughts on being selfish are in line with the saying "the easiest way to be unhappy is to try to make everybody else happy."

Hey Oleg,

I like it. By doing what makes us happy, we radiate with joy and naturally affect others around us in a positive fashion. It's a win-win.

I agree that it's important to take time for yourself, to pursue a passion or hobby that you find fulfilling, and to aim for happiness each day. I just wish we didn't view that as being selfish - I really like the term "self care", from the post above. From now on, that's how I'm going to view it - taking a moment to care for me, so that I can be a better person for my family and friends.

Great post. It's taken me three decades to un-learn the lesson from my childhood that putting myself first is a bad quality in a person. Finally figuring that out has been truly life changing.

Erin - I'm really glad to see you liked Oleg's post! Thanks for sharing your insights on how doing what you love has impacted your life.

Liz - Like you, I really agree with Oleg's post. Being selfish sounds like a negative thing, but it's really actually very important.

Greg - Great comment! I love the term "self care"; it really seems to fit well and doesn't have the same negative connotations as "selfish." I'm also really glad you brought up Ayn Rand too... Really great connection to what Oleg's written here.

Ben - You're right -- it's definitely win-win. Thanks for the comment!

Topi - It's really important that we take care of ourselves so that we can take care of others. Putting ourselves first makes us better for others!

Meg - Like you, it's taken me a long time to un-learn the idea that being selfish is a bad thing. While it may not seem like it, it really can be positive to focus on yourself.

That is a beautiful insight ... "you do your best work." So true!

J.D. - I'm glad you liked Oleg's post. I also really like that idea that you do your own best work. It really IS so true!

Great post!

Sometimes you do have to be a little selfish. Some selfishness is healthy for us if we allow a great balance between selfishness and giving to others.

Thanks for such great information!

I agree with being selfish. Sometimes people can mistake healthy selfishness as selflessness.

I feel being selfish is about working on yourself, loving yourself and rewarding yourself before you can offload those gifts onto others.

Great article, thanks for sharing.

Jarrod - Thank you for your comment on Oleg's post. It really is healthy to selfish on some levels (though most people don't want to admit that!).

Marvin - I really agree with your comment that selfishness is "about working on yourself, loving yourself and rewarding yourself before you can offload those gifts onto others." So true!

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