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A great post! Thanks for this.

Harbinger - You're welcome! Glad you enjoyed this guest post.

I think the past shouldn't be in your vernacular. The present moment is too precious to wander about past thoughts. Keep your mind on the present...and you will become positivity present as they say ;)

Great post! I was having serious trouble with regret in my mid to late 20s, and a therapist recommended some of these techniques to help me change my mindset. It's strange how regret can become almost an obsession, a whirlpool you tumble into and cannot get out of, with its own momentum.

I'm pleased to say it's been over a decade since, and I don't regret anything, but see it all as integral to this amazing, beautiful journey I'm on. :)

Awesome post Sui! Me personally, it's been a challenge to be thankful for everything thats happened in the past, but I am getting there !

Jonathan - That's so true! The present is pretty amazing (and, in reality, it's all we ever really have) so it's important to focus on the now and not on the past.

Meredith - Glad you liked Sui's post! You've given me, a twenty-something, a lot of hope with your comment so thank you!

Rocky - Thanks for the comment on Sui's post. It can definitely be a challenge to accept and be thankful for things that have happened in the past, but doing so is a great way to make peace with the present.

A lot of this is about changing what the events of the past mean to you.

This is very powerful.

If you were rejected once and you made it mean 'I am unattractive' then you can go back in your mind and choose for it to mean that 'I wasn't the person at the time that they were looking for'. This meaning is equally valid but a whole lot more freeing for your future life.

Jarrod - I agree that it's a very powerful thing to change the meaning of past events. It's not an easy thing to undertake, but it's incredibly important to use the past as a positive tool to focus on the present. You gave a great example in your comment so thanks!

Great post and topic! I'm always aware to grieve and feel whatever I need to feel for however I long I need to, so that I can get to where I need to be in healing and try not to be too hard on myself for my own process.

I know from experience if you ignore the past too long, it will come up in your present time and time again till you actually deal with it. You don't necessarily have to live in the past, or will be living in the past if are addressing the real issue of what's bothering you. If you brings you to a better place, that in of itself is the best reward.

I know I am truly happy for all the things I've gone through to be the person I am today, and the person I'm becoming (since you know that's always a work in progress).

Thanks for sharing Dani!
P.S. I got some more awesome cloud pics recently too.

I have come to terms with my past and been able to move on through the help of my fourth, fifth and ninth steps. I can't change the past but can do something about the present. Thanks Dani.

Saggleo - Thanks so much for commenting on this guest post. It's important to address and deal with the past and then move forward. Ignoring it definitely leads to trouble. So glad you enjoyed this post -- and so happy to hear about more awesome cloud pics. Yay!

Syd - You're right about that: you can't change the past but you can do something about the present. That's exactly what I try to focus on every day and it really helps a lot. Glad you enjoyed this guest post!

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