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Hey Dani,

Communication is one of my passions. I think it is something we all engage in but have no idea how to use.

First rule in my mind: word, thought and deed must be one. Often be say one thing and then do another and that not does not cultivate trust.

Communication is an act of mindfulness. Put yourself on the side, listen without judgement and try to see another person's point of view. People do things for reasons. No one acts with intentional stupidity.

Hope all is well!

Thank you for this insightful post!

I find myself struggling with communication over the phone. I believe this is because I heavily rely on facial expressions and body language when I'm communicating and interpreting others.

If anyone has any tips on how to improve this, please let me know! ;)

This was actually the topic at the meeting tonight. I do listen to what others have to say. I am also pretty straight forward. I believe that Al-Anon has helped me to communicate in a gentler and kinder way.

Nadia - So true about how many of us engage in communication but don't really know how to use it. Great point about how word, thought, and deed must be one -- if everyone followed that rule, there'd be very few arguments! Very great advice in your comment, Nadia! Thanks for stopping by!

Marthe - You're welcome! Communicating over the phone is particularly difficult because we offen rely a great deal on body language and expression. One suggestion I'd have would be to get Skype or Gmail, both which allow you to use video chatting. In the meantime, I'd try to be mindful of what you're saying and be conscious of the fact that any nonverbal communication cannot be conveyed over the phone.

Syd - What good timing for this post, coinciding with your meeting topic! I think two of the points you brought up are really important -- listening and being straight-forward. Often, when we don't listen or speak our thoughts directly, whatever we're trying to communicate becomes muddled.

keep up the amazing work!

When we pause before we speak. We allow ourselves to see if the ( well in my case, the girl) is finished talking. 99% of the time, she's still got so much more to say And they say Chivalry is dead. HUH. Keep your mouth silent. God made us with two ears and mouth. Its best we use them proportionality.

Tina - Thank you! I will!!

Jonathan - Great points you've made here. Listening is really a key element of communication and too often we don't make enough time for it in our lives. (And, yes, generally girls have a lot to say! Haha)

Dani, great stuff here. I think, keeping in mind your great tips, that the way we communicate with ourselves is just as important as the way we communicate with others.

The point of communication is to understand, I think that means we must communicate with ourselves just as, or more, effectively as we communicate with others.

Really good info here. Number 7 is a great one to keep in mind. It's a different quality of listening and you really do "hear" different things from that perspective.

Joshua - That's an excellent point! The better we become at communicating with ourselves, the better we can become at communicating with others. Glad you brought that up because it's definitely important when it comes to communicating effectively.

CC - Thanks! Glad you enjoyed it. Listening and actually hearing can be very different and it's important to be conscious of this as we're communicating with others. That's a great one to highlight!

there r 200 ways of communicatingxxx

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