To truly love yourself, you have to support your own happiness. You have to be 100% behind yourself, supporting your own actions, choices, and decisions. If you don't think that accurately describes you, you've got some work to do! First and foremost, you must believe that your happiness is worthwhile. As Buddha has said, "You, as much as anyone in the universe, deserve your love and affection." And in order to do that, you must value your own happiness.
Sad as it is to say, too many people are actually sabotaging their own happiness -- and most of them are doing so unknowingly. In life, there are many things we cannot control. We cannot control other people. We cannot control the weather. We cannot control some of the circumstances we find ourselves in. But we can control is ourselves. And too many of us are not taking our own happiness into account -- a sure sign that we're not giving ourselves the love and affection we deserve.
Take a look at this list of questions and answer them honestly. Don't just breeze through them. Really think about them and ask yourself if you find yourself doing these things.
Do you always say "yes"?
Do you always say "no"?
Do you take on too much?
Do you waste time on things that make you unhappy?
Do you spend time with people who cause you unhappiness?
Do you sleep too much? Not enough?
Do you eat foods that will keep you healthy and strong?
Do you speak to yourself with a tone of self-love?
Do you spend enough time laughing every day?
Do you believe in yourself?
Do you surround yourself with those that believe in you?
Do you spend time outdoors, in nature, or with animals?
Do you read and/or learn about subjects you're interested in?
Do you feel inspired?
Do you strive to inspire other people?
How do you feel after you asked yourself these questions? Do you realize now that you could be sabotaging your own happiness? While it's quite easy to blame things or people or situations, more often than not, it is we who bring ourselves down by doing too much or not doing enough. If you want to be able to give the world all you have to offer, you have to take a step back from how you're living and really examine your answers to these questions. Do you like the answers you see? If not, what can you do to change them?
Though it may be hard to admit, there's a chance that you're standing between yourself and happiness. It's up to you to take a good, hard look at these questions and understand what you need to change in your life. If you want to love yourself, you have to treat yourself with love. You have to live a life that inspires you and leaves you feeling fulfilled, not drained and unhappy. Choose to love yourself by choosing not to stand in the way of your own happiness.