Weeks after I'd already pre-ordered my copy of Danielle LaPorte's latest book, The Fire Starter Sessions: A Soulful + Practical Guide to Creating Success on Your Own Terms, her team contacted me and asked me to review a copy. My answer was a resounding, "Hell ya!" I'd already been planning to share my love of the book, and now I have the good fortune of an extra copy for a giveaway (check the bottom of this post for details on that!).
To say I loved the book would be an understatement. I lovvvvvvved it. Having been following Danielle's site for the past three years, I had a feeling I would be into her book, but I had no idea how inspiring and motivating the book would be. The inside flap of the book jacket says, "The Fire Starter Sessions will ignite you to action by re-framing success + self-help -- and burning some of those limiting illusions to a crisp." Those words rang true for me. The book provided me with a fresh take on self-help -- and how shattering antiquated notions of success could help me reach my true potential.
Whatever your definition of "success" is, this book as the inspiration, tools, and worksheets to help you achieve it. If you want to succeed on your own terms (and who doesn't?), this book is a must read. It discusses not only the big issues: desire, defining yourself, your vision, fear, failure, etc., but it also tackles the day-to-day stuff that often gets in the way of achieving true greatness: not having enough time, money issues, creating a supportive system.
The words of wisdom are endless -- both do-it-now practical and life-lessons inspiring -- but here are a a few of my favorite takeaways from the book:
Know what your strengths are.
"[A strength is] not necessarily what you're good at or what you're capable of -- it's what feels amazing when you do it."
We often think of our strengths as the things we're good at, but that's not exactly right. Our strengths, Danielle reminds us, are the things that make us feel alive, excited, inspired. Strengths are the things that light us up, make us want to stay up late and wake up early, and drive us to live the lives we're meant to be living. The topic of strength comes up frequently in the book and it's such an important aspect to consider when discussing success on your own terms. Danielle's interpretation of strength really made me reconsider what I consider my own strengths to be.
Rule your fears.
"When you can see fear as just an emotion that's hanging out with all of your other emotions, you gain some clearer perspective. It's not superior, and it's not even inferior. It's just an emotion that you can choose to focus on or not."
Fear is something we all struggle with. Whether it's related to yourself, your relationships, your career, or your future, fear is present in some form in all of our lives. Danielle reminds us that it's not the fear that's problematic -- it's how much power we allow that fear to have. Instead of giving it the same weight as other emotions, we tend to give it much more attention, which leads to a lot of hesitation and self-doubt. One of my favorite chapters in Danielle's book talks about how not to do what fear tells us to do. Hard -- but life-changing!
Figure out how you want to feel.
"Knowing how you actually want to feel is the most potent form of clarity you can have... First, get clear on how you want to feel. Then, do the stuff that makes you feel that way."
You might recall this post I wrote (based on a question posted by Danielle) called, "How Do You Want to Feel Today?" There's a section of the book that expands on the concept of knowing how you want to feel and using that knowledge to create a life that makes you feel that way. As I discussed in my article, we don't often spend time thinking about how we want to feel -- which is an aspect of life that's actually very, very important. Danielle shows us why this is important -- and helps us to make it a real-life practice.
Process your past.
"You can't face forward until you've processed your past...If you can assess how yesterday's agony affected you, then you not only defuse its potential grip on your, but you also place it where you want it to be in your psyche. By observing it, you transform it."
One myth about living a positively present life is that the past should be forgotten. While it's important to move forward from the past, in order to do that, we must first learn from it. Danielle knows this and she devotes a section of her book to helping readers realize how they can improve the present by observing the past. If we want to improve the present, we have to observe the past (and our relationship with it). We cannot change it, but we can change how we think about it, which is in some ways even more important.
Stop doing meaningless things.
"It's not the imbalances of life that will get you down -- it's doing meaningless things that aren't taking you where you want to go."
"I'm so busy!" How often do we stay those three little words? Too often. Yes, we're busy, but we're busy because we said yes. Danielle offers insights not on how to balance everything (impossible in her book and I agree), but on how to figure out what needs to be given attention at a particular point in time. Addressing busy-ness isn't about trying to balance everything; it's about knowing what to say yes to (and when to say it). Danielle has a refreshing (and realistic) perspective on time management.
The quotes and concepts discussed above are just a few of the many, many nuggets of wisdom Danielle offers readers in this book. Seriously, it's life-changing. If you're looking for inspiration and motivation to help you take your business, your relationships, your career -- hell, your whole life -- to the next level, this is what you need. Pick up your own copy of Danielle's book here or enter to win a copy below on Positively Present!
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