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are you being true to you? (+ stay positive giveaway)

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This article is part of a series of articles to promote Stay Positive: Daily Reminders from Positively Present. For more information on the book, visit StayPositive365.com. For details on how to win this week’s giveaway, scroll down to the bottom of this article.  

 

When it comes to living a positive life, loving oneself is critical. If you don't love who you are, it becomes increasingly difficult to love your life. But self love isn't always easy. In fact, for most people it's one of the most difficult aspects of living a positive life. Why? Because one of the trickiest things about loving yourself is actually being yourself. 

We're all up against a lot of pressure to be different from what we are. Advertising, media, and those we interact with often encourage us (directly or indirectly) to be something we're not, to strive for ideals that we might not even want to strive for. Many of us look at others and wonder how we can be more like them. While it's perfectly fine to be inspired by others and to have role models, one of the best ways to love who you are is to be who you are. 

Being yourself sounds simple enough -- almost as if it's something you couldn't help but do -- but often it's harder to be you than you might think. For some, staying true to who they are comes easily and effortlessly. For others, it's more of a struggle. Either way, it's important to check in with yourself every now and then to see if you're staying true to you. Here are some questions you can ask yourself to assess whether or not you're really being you. 

 

  • Do you say what you want to say when you want to say it? 
  • Do you wear the items that make you happy and comfortable?
  • Do you stick up for what you believe in (even if others don't agree)? 
  • Do you take part in activities that make you happy and fulfilled? 
  • Do you spend time with those with whom you can be 100% yourself?
  • Do you know what's important to you--and make time for those things? 
  • Do you state your opinions even if they oppose someone else's? 

 

Being true to who you are means saying what you think, doing what you love to do, and being with the people who inspire and uplift you. Of course, that doesn't mean you should always do what you want and say what you want. Sometimes being true to who you are means putting other people first. Sometimes it means keeping your mouth shut when you have something to say. But most of the time it means not being afraid to do what you want and say what you have to say. Most of the time it means knowing what you think -- and not being afraid to show it or say it. 

Kurt Cobain once said, "I'd rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I'm not." While that statement might be a bit strong for some, the underlying message should ring true for all of us: it's better to be true to who you are than to be true to who someone else wants you to be.  

 

STAY POSITIVE GIVEAWAYS!  


To promote the launch of Stay Positive : Daily Reminders from Positively Present, PositivelyPresent.com is offering six weeks of giveaways based on the twelve sections in Stay Positive. Each week, readers will have the chance to win one of two awesome giveways. 

 

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HOW TO ENTER

1. Link to StayPositive365.com on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Tumblr,
    Instagram, Google+,etc. and / or tell your friends about the book
2. Mention which giveaway you want to win (Self Love or Motivation) 
3. Let me know how you spread the word in the comments section below 
4. Leave your email address (or another way I can contact you) 


IMPORTANT DETAILS

* Every mention you post / tweet / like, etc. counts as one entry. 
  Enter as many times as you want! 

* 2 winners (one for each giveaway) will be chosen + notified via email on
  Friday, November 2, 2012.  

 


positively present picks: week of october 26, 2012

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Jenn for the Inspiration giveaway
 Stephanie for the Acceptance giveaway

Don't feel down if you didn't win. 
More exciting giveaways are coming next week! 

 

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 "If you have good thoughts
they will shine out of your face like sunbeams
and you will always look lovely." 

Roald Dahl

 

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99 Life Hacks : brilliant (and often funny) ways to make life easier

Halloween Hounds 2012 : love these lil pups in costume!

How I Followed My Passion : check out my guest article for Greatist

Target Holiday Ad : Dogs + Christmas + Target = Amazing

Train Yourself to Be Positive in 5 Steps : my feature on Tiny Buddha

Julie Ann Art Holiday Cards : love these fun designs + sayings

See the Glass Half Full : how to make the most of change

Meagan's Movie Alphabet : loving these clever alphabet movie posters

The Science of Dogs : Doghouse is always cracking me up

Emergency Compliment : perfect when you need a lil pick-me-up! 

Why Positive Thinking is a Bold Choice : my article for The Bold Life

 


Check out this week's Positively Present playlist on YouTube

"Holy Ground" –  Taylor Swift
"Condition" –  Duke Special
"State of Grace" –  Taylor Swift
"Chemicals" –  Bessie
"Starlight" –  Taylor Swift
"Queen of the City" –  Joshua James
"The Last Time" –  Taylor Swift
"I'm Just Me" –  Diamond Rings
"I Almost Do" –  Taylor Swift
"All Your Gold" –  Bat for Lashes
"Treacherous" –  Taylor Swift
"Fools" –  Lauren Aquilina

(can you guess what album came out this week? ha!)

 

The Blue Diary
Alice Hoffman

 


book review : the positive dog

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Positive pup Bella begs for a treat.


 

Guess what? There's still time to enter to win one of two awesome giveways featured on Positively Present this week! See below for details. 


I was thrilled when I discovered The Positive Dog: A Story about the Power of Positivity by Jon Gordon. Dogs and positivity? Yes, please! In the book, readers learn that we have two dogs inside of us -- one is positive, the other negative. The dogs often fight within us, but the one that wins the fight is the one we feed the most, the one we give the most energy and attention to. (This idea is based on the Cherokee's Legend of the Two Wolves.) I'd heard of -- and loved -- this concept before, but the way Gordon incorporated it into the story of Matt (the negative dog) and Bubba (his positive mentor) is inspiring.

Not only does this simple yet profound tale convey the importance of being positive, it provides action items for creating a positive life. Being positive is much more than just thinking positively and Gordon covers all the major points -- things like finding opportunities, coping with stress, and learning to be grateful (just to name a few!) -- that make up a positive life. Each chapter of the book includes a new lesson -- and each lesson is crucial for being positive. 

In addition to showing readers how to be positive, Gordon uses the tale of Matt and Bubba to illustrate the benefits of being positive. In particular, the book hightlights these 11 benefits: 

 

11 Benefits of Being Positive

  1. Positive people live longer. In a study of nuns, those that regularly expressed positive emotions lived an average of 10 years longer than those who didn't (Snowdon, 2001).
  2. Positive work environments outperform negative work environments (Goleman, 2011).
  3. Positive, optimistic salespeople sell more than pessimistic salespeople (Seligman, 2006).
  4. Positive leaders are able to make better decisions under pressure (Institute of HeartMath, 2012).
  5. Marriages are much more likely to succeed when the couple experiences a 5-to-1 ratio of positive to negative interactions, whereas when the ratio approaches 1-to-1, marriages are more likely to end in divorce (Gottman, 1999).
  6. Positive people who regularly express positive emotions are more resilient when facing stress, challenges, and adversity.
  7. Positive people are able to maintain a broader perspective and see the big picture, which helps them identify solutions, whereas negative people maintain a narrower perspective and tend to focus on problems (Fredrickson, 2009).
  8. Positive thoughts and emotions counter the negative effects of stress. You can't be thankful and stressed at the same time.
  9. Positive emotions such as gratitude and appreciation help athletes perform at a higher level (Institute of HeartMath, 2012).
  10. Positive people have more friends, which is a key factor of happiness and longevity (Putnam, 2000).
  11. Positive and popular leaders are more likely to garner the support of others and receive pay raises and promotions and achieve greater success in the workplace.

 

the-positive-dogAfter reading the book (and loving it!), I saw how these 11 benefits become part of a positive life. Bubba teaches Matt the joys of being positive, and it's clear to see how Matt reaps the benefits of his new positive attitude. Though the book is written about dogs, it clearly applies to humans as well. The more you choose a positive attitude (and make positive choices), the more positive experiences you'll have. If you're looking for a book highlighting the important benefits of being positive (and showing you how to achieve them), The Positive Dog is a must-read!

 

STAY POSITIVE GIVEAWAYS!  


To promote the launch of Stay Positive : Daily Reminders from Positively Present, PositivelyPresent.com is offering six weeks of giveaways based on the twelve sections in Stay Positive. Each week, readers will have the chance to win one of two awesome giveways. 

 

Giveaways-Week-2 

HOW TO ENTER

1. Link to StayPositive365.com on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Tumblr,
    Instagram, Google+,etc. and / or tell your friends about the Stay Positive book
2. Mention which giveaway you want to win (Inspiration or Acceptance) 
3. Let me know how you spread the word in the comments section below 
4. Leave your email address (or another way I can contact you) 


IMPORTANT DETAILS

* Every mention you post / tweet / like, etc. counts as one entry. 
  Enter as many times as you want! 

* 2 winners (one for each giveaway) will be chosen + notified via email on
  Friday, October 26, 2012.