About a month ago, I was sent a copy of Jason Wachob's Wellth: How I Learned to Build a Life, Not a Résumé, and the title alone had me hooked. I love clever wordplay, and I've always believed the concept of "wealth" should include much more than financial prosperity, which is exactly what happens with Wachob's creation of the word "wellth." The book focuses on the various building blocks of wellth: eat, move, work, believe, explore, breathe, connect, love, heal, thank, ground, live, and laugh. Each of these elements is an important aspect of living a positive, present life, so it was wonderful to read about them and how they connect with one another.
Each section of the book was filled with insights, stories, and inspiration, but my favorite section was BELIEVE. In this section, Wachob talks about how the "belief in oneself is a huge factor in successful careers, love, and life in general," and explores the idea (one that I fully support!) that everything is connected and you're exactly where you're meant to be in your life. As Wachob puts it, "You may not know why, and you may hate your current situation, but in time the reason will become clear." I love this section's focus on acceptance and the way Wachob takes acceptance a step further by reminding readers, "You can't just sit back and expect good things to happen. It requires hard work."
There's a balance between believing in yourself, accepting what is, and taking control over your destiny, and Wachob's assessment of this balance is spot-on. In Wachob's words, believing is a three-part process. He writes, "My problem with a lot of self-help gurus is that they promote a message that is about entitlement. Yes, I truly believe that we all deserve a great life, a life filled with happiness, health, and abundance. But I also believe that this is a three-part process: believing, seeing, and doing."
Again, I love how this process focuses on balance between acceptance and action. Below are some of Wachob's insights on this three-step process (in italics), along with my thoughts.
"The first step is BELIEVING. You have to believe -- otherwise you won't accomplish anything. If you don't believe...then it's over before you even start."
This might sound obvious, but it's important to believe in yourself, in what you can accomplish and achieve in your life. As Wachob puts it, if you don't believe, you really cannot accomplish anything, let alone big, crazy, exciting things. Of course, believing in yourself can be tricky sometimes, especially when it comes to things that might seem overwhelming or obstacle-filled. Believing in yourself is an act of self-love and, like all self-loving acts, it can prove challenging when you're going through a tough time, but it is absolute essential to achieving anything. Whether you're looking for love, aiming for that stellar career goal, or simply trying to make the most of your life, if you don't believe in yourself, you're going to have a really hard time getting where you want to go.
"Next comes the importance of SEEING. If you don't envision where you want to go, then how are you going to get from point A to point B? ... The plan doesn't have to be perfect, and quite often it will change, but you have to start by envisioning it."
Believing is so important but this next step -- seeing -- is equally as vital. If you believe you can do something, that's wonderful, but you need to have a vision of what exactly you plan to be doing. As Wachob mentions in the book, if you're looking for a partner, you need to envision exactly what traits you're looking for in that person if you ever hope to find your dream guy or girl. Believing you deserve love isn't enough; you have to envision what that love will actually look like. You have to know what specifically you want in a partner. And the same goes for any other kind of goal you're hoping to achieve. Believing in yourself is wonderful, but what does achieve that goal look like? How exactly are you going to get from where you are to where you want to be?
"The third step is TAKING ACTION. You need to do what you set out to accomplish... Your behavior on the mat or at the gym (or at the office or the dinner table) affects your entire persona."
Believing in yourself and envisioning how you're going to get from where you are to where you want to be are two essential steps for creating more wellth in your life, but the third step is absolutely essential: taking action. You can believe and envision all day long, but that's not going to get you too far if you don't take action to get where you want to be going. Wellth is created when you proactively move forward toward your goals, making positive progress with each step. (And knowing that, yes, sometimes you might take a step back or two.) What you actually do matters so much more than what you envision you'll do. Personally, I think the best way to make positive progress is to break down big goals into more manageable steps, all the while keeping your vision in mind (and never forgetting to believe in yourself!).
Personally, I feel wellthy whenever I've followed these three steps in my life. For example, when I knew I wanted to leave my full-time job and pursue Positively Present as a career. First, I had to believe in myself, that I could actually take the leap into the unknown. Then, I had to see what life would look like if I actually did it. I had to envision the future. And, finally, I had to act. I had to venture into the unknown, choosing the unpaved path over comfort and stability. Following this three-step process (in my career, in relationships, with myself) has always lead me to feel wellthy.
This three-step process is one of the many, many insights Wachob offers in the book. It's an easy-to-read format and each section ends by summing up the key points. (I really love when books do this, as it offers reminder of the various points discussed in each section, some of which are forgotten by the time you get to the end of the chapter.) If you like Positively Present and you're interested in creating a more mindful, meaningful, and empowered life, you'll love this book. Visit the book's website to learn more here.
Today's post was sponsored by Harmony Books, publisher of Wellth: How I Learned to Build a Life, Not a Résumé, a book that redefines successful living and offers readers a new life currency to build on, one that is steeped in wellbeing—Wellth.
ABOUT THE BOOK
Eat. Move. Work. Believe. Explore. Breathe. Connect. Love. Heal. Thank. Ground. Live. Laugh.
These are the building blocks of Wellth. In this blend of memoir and prescriptive advice, Jason Wachob shows us all how to enjoy truly “wellthy” lives—lives that are deeply rich in every conceivable way. Through his experience and personal story, as well as in exclusive material from popular expert contributors (including Dr. Frank Lipman, Dr. Lissa Rankin, Joe Cross, Charlie Knoles, Kathryn Budig, Dr. Aviva Romm, and Dr. Sue Johnson), we learn how we, too, can embrace this new movement, while exploring what we can do to make frequent deposits into our own “wellth” accounts. What’s your life worth to you? Come and explore it.
ABOUT JASON WACHOB
Jason Wachob is the founder and CEO of mindbodygreen, the leading independent media brand dedicated to health and happiness, with 15 million monthly unique visitors. He has been featured in the New York Times, Entrepreneur, Fast Company, and Vogue. Jason has a BA in history from Columbia University, where he played varsity basketball for four years. He lives in Brooklyn with his wife and loves German shepherds, Chuck Taylors, and guacamole.