Stressful Day? 20 Things to Add to Your To-Do List

Stressful Day - Positively Present


Having a stressful day? You’re not alone! Must of us have quite a lot on our plates, and I bet most people have at least one stressful day a week. (No science to back that up —  just some personal experience!) I figure, if stressful days are going to be part of our lives, why not do what we can to make the most of them?

After going through a pretty stressful day myself recently, I spent some time reflecting on what could have made (or, in some cases, did make!) the day better. Here are the top 20 items I’d recommend adding to your to-do list if you’re having a stressful day (… or week… or year…).

  1. Call or text a friend

    One of the best things you can do when you’re having a tough day is reach out to someone who uplifts, inspires, and encourages you. It’s not always easy to open up when you’re having a tough time, but it’s worth reaching out to those who love and care about you. Even a small bit of encouragement can make your day a bit easier to cope with.


  1. Tell someone “I love you”

    Obviously, I recommend only doing this to someone you know and love, but saying “I love you” can have a really positive impact on how you feel. Focusing on someone else — and not on your own stress — is a great way to take a step back and shift your mind to a more positive place, and putting love out into the world —  even if it’s just in the form of three little words —  cuts down on stress.

  2. Write about how you feel

    Even if you don’t consider yourself a writer, it can be useful to jot down your feelings when you’re overwhelmed. Just getting them out of your head and onto the page or screen can give you a bit of perspective and make whatever burden you’re carrying a little bit easier to manage. (Bonus: Google your specific situation online and use someone else’s writing to remind you you’re not alone!)

  3. Celebrate what’s working

    When we’re stressed, it’s tempting to focus on what’s not going right or how much you have to get done, but a simple shift in perspective can really make a big difference. Instead of paying attention to what’s not easy, take a moment to pause and celebrate what is Focusing on the things that are going your way will make it easier to tackle the things that aren’t.

  4. Eat something healthy

    I know, I know — healthy eating is often one of the first things to fly out the window when it comes to stressful days, but making the effort to eat healthy, balanced meals and drink lots of water will help your mental and physical state tremendously. It’s often when we need energy the most that we eat the foods least likely to give us energy!

  5. Find a dog (or other animal)

    My go-to stress buster is my dog, Barkley. Spending even just a few minutes with her can transform my mood ¾ and my day! If you don’t have access to a pet, there are plenty of them online that you can look at. (And I’m pretty sure it’s even been proven that looking at cute animals can decrease stress.) If you need a quick fix, here’s a second-a-day of Barkley during her first year.

  6. Take a time out

    Stressful days often equal rushing around like crazy, and it might feel counterproductive to take a break, but sometimes a time out can be just what you need to recharge your mental batteries and get back to dealing with whatever situation you’re in. Even if it’s just for a few minutes, remember to pause and give your mind a little break.

  7. Go outside for a walk

    This tip is a bit of a two-for-one because it involves two stress-fighters: exercise and nature. If at all possible, schedule some time to go for a walk (however brief!). It’s a great way to cut down on stress and you can even count it as #7 (a time out) from your day. Being outside and getting exercise have both been shown to reduce stress so combining them into one stress-fighting activity should be a no-brainer.

  8. Wear something comfortable

    Depending on your situation, this might not be an option, but if it’s possible, go for a comfortable outfit (or at least make your underthings comfy!). Nothing makes a stressful day more stressful than being physically uncomfortable, so set yourself up for at least a bit less stress by wearing something that feels good. (Bonus if you can find something that’s comfortable and makes you feel like you look good too!)

  9. Remember how far you’ve come

    When we’re stressed, we’re often focusing on what’s overwhelming us right in the moment, but it’s worth taking a moment to remember how far you’ve come in your life. Even if you don’t feel like you’re where you want to be, you’ve probably made a lot more progress in your life that you realize and, like most of us, you might take it for granted. Remind yourself of it today for a little self-love.

  10. Drink warm tea

    This might be a personal one, but I think I’ve read somewhere that warm things have de-stressing benefits. And I know that certain types of teas (lavender, chamomile) can help you keep calm. So it makes sense that a nice cup of tea (maybe iced if it’s summer!) can provide you with some good relaxation benefits. Pour yourself a cup when you need a little chill!

  11. Trash negative thoughts

    One of the craziest things about stressful days is how we often make them more stressful within our own heads! It’s tempting to look for the negative — especially if you’re trying to avoid things going wrong — but getting rid of negative thoughts (or at least challenging them with positive ones) can cut down an amazing amount on the stress you’re experiencing.

  12. Look at pretty art

    It might sound superficial, but what you look at when you’re stressed matters. If you’re having a particularly stressful day (and your situation allows it), turn off the news for a bit and spend a moment or two looking at something beautiful. Either spend a bit of time in front of your favorite piece in your house or do a search online for something you know brings you feelings of calm.

  13. Don’t overbook yourself

    A major cause of stress is having way too much to do at one time. We all only have 24 hours in a day (and most of us use quite a few of them for sleeping) so don’t crowd your schedule with things that aren’t essential on a stressful day. If you know a stressful day is coming, make it clear to those around you that you’re going to be focused on something specific and other tasks will have to wait to another day.

  14. Slow down

    I don’t know about you, but when I’m stressed, my whole world speeds up. I walk faster, I drive faster, I type faster, and I talk faster. It seems like this would make things more productive but, from experience, I know it doesn’t. It not only makes it more likely that I’ll make mistakes or say the wrong thing, but it just makes me feel more stressed! Slowing down when you’re busy is so hard, but give it a try and you’ll find that it’s actually more helpful than harmful.

  15. Listen to happy tunes

    Music can have a huge impact on your mood, so a stressful day is a great time to choose tunes that make you feel uplifted and inspired. (But make sure they’re not too fast-paced because that can make you feel more anxious than happy.) If you need some ideas, check out my weekly YouTube playlists and my Positive Vibes Spotify playlist.

  16. Compliment yourself

    When you’re stressed, self-love is essential. A little compliment can go a long way, and there’s no reason why you can’t give one of those little mood-boosters to yourself. Even if it’s something small — you got out of bed, you got dressed, etc.— give yourself a bit of praise for getting something done.

  17. Remember: you’re small

    Stress can make us feel like everything around us is a huge, big deal. And, while sometimes that’s true, in the grand scheme of things, we’re all very, very tiny creatures on a giant planet in a huge universe. This isn’t meant to diminish your value, but it’s important to keep in mind because it helps you keep things in perspective. And perspective is everything when you’re stressed!

  18. Consider how you’re lucky

    You might not feel lucky when you’re in the midst of a stressful day, but, if you’re reading this, you’re probably pretty lucky ¾ you’ve got eyes to see, hands to click buttons, and an internet connection, just to name a few things. Considering how you’re lucky will make you feel incredibly grateful, and gratitude is a great stress-challenger. The more grateful you feel, the more your stress goes down.

  19. Be your own cheerleader

    In the midst of stress, you might not feel particularly cheery, but being your own cheerleader is a great way to combat feelings of stress. Periodically throughout your stressful day, pause and remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can where you are. Try your hardest to speak positively to yourself with encouragement and love. After all, the voice in your head is usually the loudest one you’ll hear all day, so why not make it an encouraging one?

I’m not going to lie— stressful days are never fun, and no matter how hard you try to stay positive and present, they’re bound to be rough. But if you give some of the tips above a try, you’re likely to cut down on some of the stress and, ultimately, that’ll make you more productive. So if you’re struggling to rationalize why you’d need any of these tips — “Who has the time!” you might think— remember: the calmer you are, the more productive you can be. Now, go get ‘em!


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R-E-S-P-E-C-T Yourself : 11 Things To Do Daily


Respect Yourself - Positively Present


If you want to live a positive and present life, you've got to cultivate self love. And self love begins with self respect. By definition, respect means, "a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements." Think about someone you really respect — either someone you know well or a well-known figure — and pause to consider what you value in that person and how it feels when you think about him/her. Now, imagine what it would be like to feel that way about yourself. 

Respecting yourself is a challenge. Life offers lots of temptations to lure you away from loving and respecting yourself, and, regardless of how much you work on it, there will often be outside influences that get in the way of making it easy to treat yourself honorably. Here are a few situations that might tempt you away from respecting yourself:

  • loving someone who doesn't love you (or who treats you badly);

  • having a "successful" career that makes you unhappy;

  • wishing you could go back to a past time in your life;

  • thinking you need to have X, Y, or Z to be happy;

  • having people around you who doubt your abilities;

  • wanting things simply because you think you "should" want them;

  • thinking the lives others lead is better than your own; or

  • living or working with people who treat you (or themselves) negatively.  

This is a very small list of things that might deter you from giving yourself the respect you deserve. The list is lengthy and, unfortunately, most of us will face one or more of these respect-stealing situations in our lives, some of which are out of our control. You cannot always control what happens to you, but you can always control how you treat yourself. Here are some things you can do every single day to cultivate more self respect in your life: 



The foundation for respect and self love is knowing what it is you really want and who you really are. You have to get in touch with yourself and what matters to you. (One way I do this is by using my Finding Yourself workbook and revisiting it often.) When you know who you are — and what you will and won't stand for — you'll be able to focus on the activities and people that encourage self respect. 



It's essential to keep company with those who respect you — and themselves. Negative people (even those who are not negative directly to you) are draining, and they can spark negativity within you without you even realizing it! You've may've heard the saying: you are a combination of the five people you spend the most time with. Respect yourself enough to make sure those people are positive influences. 



One of the best ways to respect yourself is never to settle for less than what you deserve. And you — we all — deserve the very best in life: the best people, the best career, the best feelings. Unfortunately, one of the reasons a lot of us don't have these things is because, deep down, we don't feel we're worthy of them. Remind yourself that you are worthy every day. (If you need a reminder, check out this perfect magnet.)



Freeing yourself from past is a challenge (no matter what the past!), but, in order to respect who you are now, you must let go of who you were then. Do what you can to forgive yourself for mistakes you've made. Remind yourself that we've all made them — it's part of life! — and those who respect themselves know how to let those mistakes go. You can never go back; you can only take what's happened and move positively forward. 



If you've been hurt badly, forgiveness can be really difficult. But carrying around pain and anger only makes it more challenging to cultivate love and respect for yourself. Let go of the pain others have caused and you'll open up space in your heart in mind for more positive emotions and experiences. No matter what wrong has been committed against you, forgiving is always better than clinging to the pain. Need inspiration? Read Forgiveness



Confidence might sound like a by-product self-love, but it's actually part of what makes it easier to have love and respect for yourself. We all (yes, even those people you think have it all!) struggle with confidence, but you can help build yours up by doing things you're good at, learning to accept compliments, and engage in self-esteem building activities. And keep in mind: being confident ≠ egotistical. So many people avoid confidence because they think it's self-centered, but it's very different and you need it to respect yourself!



The ultimate sign of respect? Honesty. When you're honest with yourself, you'll see (and communicate!) what's good for you and what's not. You'll be less likely to compromise on what matters most to you. Being honest with yourself is actually harder than it sounds, so really pay attention to how you feel and think. The more honest you are with yourself, the easier it is to be honest with others. Honesty improves not only your relationship with yourself, but with other people as well. 



Respect might be an abstract concept, but it can have tangible results in your body. Making yourself feel good physically is one of the ultimate ways to respect yourself. Treat your body as you would the body of someone you love dearly. Healthy food, exercise, low stress. The more kindness you show yourself physically, the more internal love you'll feel. Your body is the vessel transporting you around this world, and it deserves your love and respect. 



Just as you need to take care of your body, your mind needs a little TLC as well. Respect it by challenging yourself with new experiences and information. Step out of the thinking you're comfortable with, and try to find new perspectives. Find resources for inspiration — books, websites, people — and allow your mind soak up all it can. The more you know, the more you can grow. And all that growth will empower you, making it much easier to respect yourself. 



A great way to figure out how someone feels about him/her self is to listen to how they speak about themselves. Too often people want to avoid sounding self-absorbed so they downplay their positive aspects. Try always to speak about yourself positively, and try never to put yourself down with negativity. If this is a struggle for you, check out Using Positive Words to Promote Self-Love, which will give you inspiration for speaking positively about yourself. (Plus there's a free download with lots and lots of words!)



"Comparison is the thief of joy," said Theodore Roosevelt, and he couldn't have been more right. The more you compare your life to someone else's, the more difficult it becomes to cultivate self respect. It's hard not to compare (especially with everything on display via social media!), but remind yourself that, no matter how well you know someone, you don't ever know everything. No life is perfect, and an essential way to respect yourself is to focus on what you have, not on what perceive others possess. 


You're probably well aware that none of these 12 tips come easily, but, I promise, they all get easier with practice. Start by being aware of what's really happening, then do your best to find a way to make it a positive, self-respecting experience, and then use what you're going through (good or bad!) to cultivate more respect for yourself using the tips above. 


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Announcing... Instant Insta! Self-Love Card Deck


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I've been hard at work on a new product, and it's finally here!!! I'm so excited to announce the first INSTANT INSTA Card Deck: Self-Love Edition! 

For the Year of Self-Love, I wanted to create a product to help others promote self-love, and I decided the best way to do this would be to combine two things I personally love: Instagram inspiration and card decks (I have a slight obsession with them... especially this one. and this one. and this one.)

Instant Insta Self-Love Card Deck1You guys love the things I post on Instagram, and one of my absolute favorite things is when someone comments, "Thank you! This came at just the right time!" So I thought, What if I could create something where people could have Instagram inspiration whenever they wanted, regardless of whether I'd posted a new image or not? And that's how the concept INSTANT INSTA was born! 

A card deck you can hold in your hands (just like a phone!), I designed the card deck to empower and enlighten you with 52 hand-lettered quotes and questions you can access any time you need a self-love boost. I've been playing around with it for a few weeks, and I love it. There's something really cool about choosing a card at random and seeing how those words make you feel. 

Read on for more details, and click the image at the bottom of the post to grab your deck today!  



You might be wondering, What exactly do I get? 

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First and foremost, you're getting INSTANT INSTA, aka, instant inspiration for creating more self-love in your life. If you want to feel empowered and more in love with yourself (and your life!), this card deck is for you. When you purchase, you'll receive an email with a PDF download link. In the PDF, you'll get: 

♥  52 self-love inspiration cards

♥  1 cute + colorful card box

♥  5 card background options

♥  Detailed assembly instructions

♥  List of recommended supplies 



Now you might be wondering, Why do I need this in my life?

If, like so many of us, you struggle to stay empowered and inspired in a world filled with negativity, this is just what you need. Not only do the cards offer inspiration in the form of hand-lettered quotes and prompts, but the act of choosing a card when you need some thought-provoking inspiration is a wonderfully positive activity to incorporate into your daily routine. The IRL experience of choosing a card when you need a self-love boost can be transformative. I've found that words seem to find me when I need them most, which is why I love having so many card decks around.

Instant Insta Self-Love Card Deck4While I love Instagram (and all kinds of online inspiration), there's something kind of magical about choosing words with your actual hands. That tangible experience is totally different than spotting a good quote online, and it's one of my favorite daily routines. I'm so thrilled that I can now do it with my own card deck — and now you can too! 

Also, not only is it really cool to have tangible Positively Present inspiration in the palm of your hand, but there's also something really empowering about putting it together yourself, with your own two hands. You become part of the process, and that makes the cards even more special. (Plus, who doesn't love a fun, easy little craft project?!)

The card deck is perfect for anyone looking for bite-sized inspiration, for quick and easy empowerment. Plus, there's the added bonus of choosing your favorite cards and hanging them up somewhere you can see them every day. (Or tucking them in a wallet or purse for an on-the-go self-love boost!)



And, of course, the most important question: How do I get my hands on this magical little deck?

Lucky for you, place your order by clicking the image below and it's yours. Very instant! ;) Click the image below to get your deck and get started on the tantalizing, tangible joy that comes from holding self-love inspiration in the palm of your hand!