harnessing the positive power of no



This post is inspired by my exclusive interview with Whole Food Love, which will debut during a free event on Women’s Health & Wellness, featuring expert interviews from 25+ of the top sources in lifestyle advice. Listen in to this FREE event starting on May 11, 2015! 


No is a very powerful word when it comes to your relationships with others — and with yourself. When you first think about it, the word "no" might trigger thoughts of negativity, but harnessing the power of no can be a very positive thing. In particular, mastering the art of saying no is essential to distancing yourself from negative people or situations. Many people have a “yes” default setting when asked to attend an event or help with a project, which would seem like a positive thing, right? For the most part, saying yes to others — offering to help or showing support — is a good thing, but if yes is a default response for you, you might not be pausing to consider whether or not saying yes will have a positive impact on your life. When it comes to determining whether or not a yes is a positive or a negative consider these questions: 



Before immediately responding to a question or a request, take a moment (or a day to think about it) and ask yourself, "What do I really want?" This isn't to say you should just do what you want all the time and not go out of your way for others, but if you find yourself always saying yes (even when you don't want to), it's time to step back and think about your own needs. And keep in mind that putting yourself first isn't always selfish. Sometimes choosing to say no can cut out resentment in a relationship and that will positively impact you and others. 



"No" has such a negative connotation that sometimes we’re afraid to actually say it without hedging or following it with an explanation. Instead, we say things like, “I’ll have to think about it…” or “I’m not sure, maybe…” These phrases not only confuse others (is that a yes or a no?), but also dilute our own thoughts. Don’t be afraid to say no when you’re 100% certain you don’t want to engage in a particular activity. Imagine if every time you said "yes" you offered some sort of explanation as to why you wanted to partake! Just like saying yes, saying no doesn't require an explanation.



Whenever you say no to something, keep in mind that you're saying yes to something else. You're freeing up your time (and, in some cases, your emotional bandwidth) to engage in another (perhaps more positive) activity. If you feel bad turning someone down, try thinking about what you're saying yes to instead. Reframing the no in a more positive way might make it easier to commit to. The more you focus on how you will be spending your time, the more effortless it becomes to turn down invitations or requests that aren't adding value to your life. 



The more you value yourself, your thoughts, and your emotions, the easier it is to say no when necessary. When you remind yourself of how valuable your time is — and that it shouldn't be wasted on certain people or situations — you’re likely to feel less guilt or hesitation when it comes to saying no. Valuing your time and your emotional wellbeing helps you to create a strong sense of self, a trait that reminds you to preserve your positive moments by saying no when you need to. Remember: loving yourself isn't selfish.



One of the toughest things about harnessing the power of no is encountering people who just won’t take no for an answer. You know the type — the ones that pepper you with questions or try to come up with creative solutions that will make it possible for you to say yes. When you encounter these types of people, stand your ground and simply repeat your initial response. (If you find yourself wanting to waver, consider reminding yourself of the reasons you chose to say no in the first place or what you're saying yes to when you're saying no.) 


It can be tough to say no sometimes, but learning how to do it without feeling guilty or unsettled is an essential aspect of living a positive, present life. The more you master the art of saying no when you need to, the easier it becomes to fill your life with activities and people who positively influence you. Saying no is also a vital skill for staying true to yourself, which is one of the most important ways to live positively in the present. 




Want more inspiration for staying true to yourself? You can start by doing some soul-searching with the Finding Yourself workbook. Get to know yourself better, discover more about what you value, and uncover what you want most by downloading a copy of the e-book Finding Yourself: A Soul-Searching Workbook for Surprising Self Discovery. Filled with inspiration, questions, and activities to get you thinking about what it means to be you, Finding Yourself is a must for learning more about who you are and about what matters most to you. Learn more about the workbook here and purchase your very own soul-searching copy here.

word of the month : explore




This article is part of the 2015 Word of the Month series, based on the monthly theme featured in the Every Day Matters 2015 Diary I designed for Watkins Publishing. In the planner, each month has a theme highlighted in the weekly illustrations, quotes, and activities. This month's theme is EXPLORE. 


I'll be honest — I'm not much of an explorer. Though I'm well aware of the benefits of getting out of one's comfort zone and exploring new things, I tend to stay where I feel safe and comfortable. But not this month! This month is all about getting out of my comfort zone and exploring, and I encourage you to give exploration a try in your life this month too. 

Typically when I hear the word "explore," I think of scaling mountains or traipsing through a forest, but exploration isn't just about lacing up your hiking boots or going out into the wilderness. Exploring is something that can be done in all kinds of ways, from looking more closely at your own thoughts to indulging in a new kind of cuisine to flying to a new locale on the other side of the globe. 

I won't be making a worldwide trek this month, but I will be going out of my way to explore the world around me and venture outside of my normal thoughts, behaviors, and interactions. It's springtime where I live and that seems like a great time to get out of the same ol', same ol' rut and try new things. Here are some of the best ways to embrace exploration...



Exploration doesn't have to be about observing new cultures (though that is a wonderful way to explore!). Exploring can happen right where you are and can actually be a great way to bring your attention to where you are and what's around you. One of the ways I'm going to practice exploring this month is by paying close attention to the things I see every day. I'm going to strive for a more mindful nature while walking down my usual paths and I'm going to take a deeper interest in the things I have around me. One of the ways I plan to do this is by sitting still at my desk for a few moments each day and really being mindful of the sights and sounds around me. So often we take for granted what we see all the time so mindfulness can actually be a kind of exploration. 



It's certainly not a new idea, but going somewhere new is one of the best ways to explore. While we'd all probably love a chance to fly to a new country or take a vacation to some beautiful location, exploring a new location doesn't necessarily have to involve travel. A new location can be as simple as trying a new restaurant or going into a shop you've never checked out before. This month, I plan to check out as many new locations as I can. I won't be able to travel, most likely, but I won't let that stop me from finding exciting new places in nearby towns or even in my own city. If you don't have access to any new locations, try checking out places online. A little online exploration can be a good thing too! 



Introspection is a great form of exploration. Often we're so busy that we don't really stop to think about what we're thinking or how we're feeling. A month focused on exploration provides an excellent opportunity to dig deeper into the mind. This can be done by simply sitting quietly and contemplating how you feel and what's on your mind. Or, if you want a more tangible kind of exploration, you can free write your thoughts and feelings for a set period of time (maybe 15 minutes or so). If you're feeling extra creative, you could even draw how you're feeling and what you're thinking about (and don't be afraid to dabble in some abstract ideas!). We all have so much going on in our minds at any given time so it can be a sort of adventure to really give our attention to our thoughts and emotions. 



A fresh perspective can provide all sorts of exciting insights about the world around us. This month I'm going to try to explore new perspectives in all sorts of ways. Some ideas for discovering new perspectives: take a different route to work or school, sit in a different chair in your kitchen or living room, work outside or at a coffee shop instead of at your desk, stand in a completely random spot in a room you're in often, FaceTime instead of talk on the phone or talk on the phone instead of texting. A new perspective can come in all sorts of ways, some physical, some mental, but even the tiniest tweaks can provide a fresh point of view, a new way to explore the world around you and possibly find new discoveries about the places or activities you might take for granted. 



One of the best ways to explore (from right where you are!) is to investigate a foreign idea or concept. I'm planning to look into some topics I've always been curious about and see if I can learn more about them. If you're looking to explore an unfamiliar topic, consider something you've always wanted to know more about. Or, ask yourself if there's something you feel you should know more about (a religion different from your own, a political party you don't particularly favor) in order to be more educated. We're so fortunate to have the internet (and all its knowledge!) at our fingertips. Online adventures can lead to some really great treasures, especially if you start looking into things you know little or nothing about. Exploring ideas that are unfamiliar not only teaches you more about the world in general, but it can also lead to surprising insights about yourself too. 


Whether you have the opportunity to travel the world or you spend your time adventuring online, exploration is something we can all do and benefit from. It's hard sometimes to break out of your comfort zone (both physically and mentally), but I've found that every time I explore a new place or idea, I learn something worthwhile. This month I plan to make the most of exploration in my life and I hope you venture outside of your usual thoughts and actions and do some exploring of your own too! 



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9 life lessons from kimmy schmidt



When I find a new TV show I like, I get really into it. My latest obsession? Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt, which I've been binge watching on Netflix. I'm a big fan of the whole fish-out-of-water concept (hence my obsession with the film Elf), and I'm (not surprisingly) obsessed with uber-positive characters like Buddy the Elf, Chris from Parks & Recreation, and my latest favorite: Kimmy. 

If you haven't seen the show, the premise is this: Kimmy (Ellie Kemper, in real live) was trapped with three other women in a bunker for 15 years and has just emerged into the modern world of NYC, where she's discovering the modern world, making new friends, and struggling with romance. It sounds like a silly premise, but it's such an uplifting and funny show that I can overlook some of the nonsense that comes along with it. 

The best thing about the show is Kimmy's positive attitude. Even when she was trapped in the bunker, led to believe the world had ended by a creepy reverend (played by the hilarious John Hamm), she maintained an optimistic outlook and tried to keep her fellow captives' spirits uplifted. And when she got out of the bunker and found the world much changed in the 15 years she'd missed, she doesn't mope around, thinking about how helpless she is. She takes her life into her own hands, using her determination and optimism to move to NYC, find a job and place to live, and make new friends. 

Whether or not you've seen the show, here are some excellent life lessons (and great Kimmy quotes!) you can take away from Kimmy and her adventures: 


"A person can stand just about anything for ten seconds." 

I've always been a fan of taking things one day at a time. Sometimes the whole oh-my-god-this-is-going-to-last-forever mindset can really take its toll, and focusing on a smaller block of time can make whatever you're going through more manageable. However, I'd never thought about taking things in a tiny ten-second time block. It makes a lot of sense though, particularly if you're going through something really tough (like Kimmy was when she was forced to turn the "mystery crank" in the dark, dank bunker). Taking something ten seconds at a time is also a great way to stay in the moment. 


"We're not garbage! We're human beings!" 

Even though for years Kimmy and her fellow captives had been told that they were dumb, that they were garbage, Kimmy doesn't allow the negativity to get to her. Despite all of the harsh words she endured for a decade and a half, she comes out of the bunker believing that she has worth. Kimmy focuses on the skills she does have instead of dwelling on all she doesn't know about the world. When trying to win over a future employer, she says, "I'm a hard worker, I'm proficient in WordPerfect and Mavis Beacon Teaches Typing, and I can hold my breath for a real long time." Even though she has a lot to learn, she focuses on her strengths and celebrates her worth. 


"Smile until you feel better. I call it Kimmying." 

While I don't advise pretending things are fine when they're not (negative emotions always resurface somehow so it's better to deal with them and move forward rather than avoid them), I do think there's something to be said for Kimmying, aka putting a smile on your face even when you don't necessarily feel like smiling. It's even been proven scientifically that the act of smiling might actually make you feel happier. It seems to work for Kimmy — she consistently makes an effort to put a smile on her face and on the faces of others, even when things aren't going well — so it's worth giving it a try the next time you're not feeling so great.  


"A female dog? The thing that makes puppies? Nice compliment!"

Kimmy has to deal with quite a few haters in her new post-bunker life. But does she let them take her down and make her feel bad about herself? Nope! Every time someone insults her, she finds a way to put a positive spin on the putdown. Like when her boss's stepdaughter calls her a bitch and she responds with, "A female dog? The thing that makes puppies? Nice compliment!" It's a small example, but it represents pretty well how Kimmy takes whatever situation she finds herself in and tries to turn it into a positive. She has to go through some pretty tough stuff, but finding the good helps her overcome every challenge she faces. 


“Age doesn’t matter. You can die at any time.”

While this Kimmy quote might sound a little dark (and it is), it's also a pretty wise reminder that life is short and the end is often unknown. It's easy for Kimmy, who has been trapped underground for years, to seize the day and strive to make the most of life after missing out on so much, but how often do we really stop and think about how short and unpredictable life is? Whether you're old or young, you only have a short time on this Earth and, like Kimmy, you should make the most of it by appreciating the fact that every day you're alive is a gift. It might sound a bit grim, but it's a useful reminder for making the most of every moment. 


"I was trying to have fun and then I made everything weird 'cause I'm weird."

After being trapped underground with access to only four other people for years and years, it's no surprise that Kimmy emerges a little bit... odd. In some ways, she's stuck in the past, as her fifteen-year-old self, and she's very unfamiliar with current technology and trends. This makes her a little weird in the eyes of the other characters, but Kimmy embraces her weirdness. She admits that she doesn't know a lot about the modern world ("Hashbrown, no filter."), but she strives to learn and doesn't hesitate to ask questions. But while she's learning about the world, she's also unafraid to be herself. She wears what she wants, says what she wants, and befriends who she wants. And because she's so confident in who she is (weird as that might be at times), others are drawn to her. 


"Everything you've said about your boyfriend is straight out of Baby-Sitter's Club Mystery #12." 

This quote might not make too much sense without the plot context, but (spoiler alert!) here's what happens: Kimmy uncovers a lie her boss's stepdaughter has been telling by recognizing that the stepdaughter's story is the word-for-word plot of Baby-Sitter's Club Mystery #12, one of the two books she had with her in the bunker. Kimmy has a lot to learn about the world (don't we all!), but she uses what little knowledge she has to discover truths and make the most of whatever situations she finds herself in. Sometimes it's tempting to think you don't know enough about a situation or topic, but if you dig deep, you might find that you know a lot more than you thought.  


"Changing your outside isn't going to fix what's wrong on the inside."

In one episode, Kimmy and her boss begin to believe they can fix their problems by changing their appearance. But when Kimmy goes under anesthesia to have a face transplant (ridiculous, I know), she realizes you can't fix the inside by fixing the outside. A lot of us probably struggle with this — thinking if we were prettier/thinner, had a different job, had a romantic relationship, etc. that things would be better. But change comes from the inside. No matter what we do on the outside, if we don't work to change what's going on inside, we'll never create real change. (I actually write about this exact thing in the Introduction of my book The Positively Present Guide to Life, where I talk about how the concept of Positively Present came to be.)


"Let me take care of the rent for a little while!" 

One of Kimmy's most admirable traits is her ability a great friend. She doesn't have a lot in the way of money, power, or possessions, but what she does have, she's happy to give to others. Not only does she offer to take care of the rent for her new friend, Titus, but she offers emotional support for all of her friends, listening to their troubles and offering to help in whatever way she can. Sometimes she might go a little out of her way helping people, but it's really inspiring how she puts the needs of others before her own. She's the kind of person that anyone would love to have as a friend, a true inspiration for creating strong, lasting relationships with others. 



The Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt theme song is one of the catchiest tunes I've ever heard (I find myself singing it all the time!) and one of the best parts of the show, in my opinion. The song features a snippet from an interview of someone who'd observed Kimmy and her bunk-mates coming out of the bunker after 15 years. In the interview, the witness says, "... but females are strong as hell." It's one of the best lines from the show and pretty much the show's catchphrase. It's such a great reminder that, even when they struggle and face unimaginable challenges, women are incredibly strong and resourceful and can make the best of even the worst situations. So, in case you didn't already know, here's one of the most important life lessons from Kimmy: females are strong as hell! 



Want to find out all of the ways you're as awesome and unique as Kimmy Schmidt? Get to know yourself better, and discover more about what you value, and uncover what you want most by downloading a copy of the e-book Finding Yourself: A Soul-Searching Workbook for Surprising Self Discovery. Filled with inspiration, questions, and activities to get you thinking about what it means to be you, Finding Yourself is a must for learning more about who you are and about what matters most to you. Learn more about the workbook here and purchase your very own soul-searching copy here.

the positively present guide to life!

Book Published

Tomorrow is a very exciting day for me. It's the official debut of The Positively Present Guide to Life, a book I've been hard at work on for over two years!

Back in 2012, I left my full-time job in Marketing to pursue writing and blogging. Since then I've self-published a book, Stay Positive: Daily Reminders from Positively Present, as well as written a variety of e-books, but this in my first in-the-bookstore, traditionally published book and I couldn't be more excited about its launch! 

If you're already as excited as I am about it and want to order your copy ASAP, you can grab a copy on Amazon or check in with your local bookseller to see if it'll be in stock tomorrow. If you're not sure if this is the book for you, here's what you need to know about the book... (and scroll down to the bottom of the post to check out the bonus freebie!)



Ok, so, there are tons of self-help books on the market, but this one is different. First and foremost, it blends serious content with inspiring illustrations, something you don't see too often in the self-help space. And, more importantly, it's not a book about achieving happiness (though happiness is a lovely by-product of living a positively present life) and it's not about perfecting your life. Instead, it's about learning to live positively in present — no matter what the present moment holds. This is the book you need to face whatever challenges you currently have in your life, to create the relationships you want to have, and to learn how to make the most of every moment. 

Featuring five inspiring and insightful chapters on home, work, love, relationships, and change, the book provides practical advice for creating a nurturing home, building a fulfilling career, developing great relationships, appreciating true love, and embracing change. It also includes 30 easy-to-do exercises to inspire action, create transformation, encourage positivity, embrace the moment, and achieve fulfillment. And it has additional features such as inspiring illustrations and access to additional online content like free worksheets to use in conjunction with the book (see here).

This book is a must-read for anyone who wants to stay present, live positively, and make the most of every moment.   




Obviously, as the author and illustrator of the book, I think the book's awesome, but you'll have to be the judge of that yourself. Here are some exciting things to know about the book. These are the things that really make it unique and inspiring, and I hope these features will help you feel motivated to live a more positive, more present life. 

  • FREE WORKSHEETS: If you visit DaniDiPirro.com/Books/Guide, you can download free PDFs of worksheets that accompany the content in the book. The worksheets aren't necessary, but they are a great bonus if you're the type of person who likes to have everything organized (and color-coordinated with the book) and wants to really engage in the activities from the book. 

  • INSPIRING ILLUSTRATIONS: This is one of my absolute favorite parts of the book, and I think it's one of the things that makes it so unique. To accompany the content, I created illustrations throughout the book to offer additional inspiration and motivation. These illustrations, paired with quotes, have been created to keep you inspired as you read. 

  • EASY-TO-DO EXERCISES: One of the most important things to me when I created this book was to make it a practical guide for living positively in the present. For that reason, each section of the book has a practical activity that will urge you to apply the topic in your real life. As I wrote about recently, self-awareness isn't enough. Action is where real change happens. 

  • POSITIVITY REMINDERS: In the book, you'll learn about the six essential Positively Present Principles. These are the vital foundation for living a positive, present life. To help you keep these in mind, I've featured reminders throughout the book that highlight how a particular principle is relevant to that particular topic. 

  • STEP-BY-STEP ADVICE: Of course, the most important thing about the book is the content. In each of the five sections, you'll find six chapters with insights, inspiration, and step-by-step advice for tackling life's many challenges. The advice I offer comes from my own personal experience. It's worked for me — and I know it'll benefit you too!


I've worked so hard on this book and I really think you'll love it! Tomorrow (March 10, 2015)  the book will be available in select bookstores. You can purchase a copy online at AmazonBarnes & NobleAmazon UK, or IndieBound. If you purchase the book and would like to leave a review on Amazon or GoodReads, I would be forever thankful! And if you'd like to help spread the word about the book via social media or to friends and family, that would be ah-maz-ing. 



Want a PERSONALIZED, SIGNED bookplate (aka, pretty sticker signed by me to put in your book)? Email me (dani [at] positivelypresent.com) with the name you'd like on the bookplate (yours or a friend's) along with your mailing address and I'll send signed bookplate your way! Bookplates are perfect for gift-giving (and they also make the copy you get for yourself feel like an extra special gift!). Note: There are limited quantities available so be sure to send your request soon! 

self-awareness isn't change (+ a book giveaway!)

Self Awareness


[Hey there! Want to win a personalized, signed, advanced copy of my book The Positively Present Guide to Life? Scroll to the end of this post to enter to win!]


While scrolling BuzzFeed the other day, I came across this article: The Self-Awareness at This Year's Oscars Is Not a Substitute for Change. The author, Alison Willmore, made some great points about the Oscars, and she also got me thinking about self-awareness in general. In particular, she got me thinking about how self-awareness, useful as it is, isn't enough. For self-awareness to become self-improvement, it must be paired with change.

If you're reading this site, you probably have some level of self-awareness, an understanding of your character, feelings, strengths and weaknesses. This awareness is awesome; being aware of yourself can provide you with a greater understanding of how you interact with the world and with others, which is an essential first step to improving the self.

However, many of us (including me!) achieve self-awareness in some aspects of our lives and think that is enough. Self-awareness can be a difficult process so it sometimes seems as if the work is done once we identify aspects of ourselves. But awareness shouldn't always be the end goal. While there are are many aspects of ourselves that we can simply be aware of, there are also many aspects of ourselves that need to take that awareness to the next level and prompt change. In those situations, awareness shouldn't be the final achievement, but should instead be one step on the road to change. 



This all sounds a bit abstract so let me use a personal example. I consider myself an introvert who would like to be more social. Most of the activities I love doing (reading, writing, drawing) are solitary, but I realize that, much as I claim to be antisocial, I actually receive a lot of positive benefits from interacting with others. Over the years, I've come to really identify with the notion of being an introvert who should probably socialize more. At one point, I was proud of myself for coming to the realization that I should push myself to be more social. The "I should be more social" mantra became part of my identity and I embraced it. I would make self-aware jokes about spending more time with dogs than people; I'd laugh about how I should get out more while resigning myself to the fact that I would probably end up staying in.

I was aware — and accepting — of the fact that I was an introvert-who-should-get-out-more. This acceptance felt like a badge of honor. I was recognizing that I needed to change! I was aware of my socializing preferences but was willing to concede that I should push myself out of my comfort zone! I was proud of my ability to be so self-aware, to accept myself for what I was. This acceptance was all well and good — aside from the fact that I identified with it so much that I backed myself into a solitary (and sometimes lonely) corner. I was so pleased with the fact that I was aware (and accepting) of my I-should-get-out-more mentality that I never stopped to ponder whether or not I should actually do something with this knowledge of myself.  

Being aware of some aspect of ourselves is important, but taking action (and making a change if necessary) is much more important. Awareness is a great first step, but action is where it's at. In my case, I believed awareness of my antisocial tendencies was such a breakthrough in my thinking that I allowed myself to just accept that notion of who I was without taking action. But more recently I discovered that being aware of something that needs changing isn't enough; that awareness needs to spark action. 



Changing is rarely easy, but it's essential for self-improvement. For example, I'll probably always lean towards introversion (and I'm okay with that), but simply laughing this off and identifying myself as an introvert who should probably get out more isn't self-improvement. I often joke about how I'm introverted and like to stay at home, knowing full well that this isn't 100% true. Yes, I do enjoy my alone time, but I don't always want to be alone. Being able to joke about it means I'm aware of it, but it's not changing the fact that I want to be more social.

Instead of questioning the statement I made frequently — "I should get out more" — I accepted it as part of myself and, as a result, it became part of who I was, a running joke with friends that I'd be unlikely to attend an event because I liked being at home, an absence of invites because everyone who knows me well knows I won't [drive that far/go out in the snow/leave my dog for long periods of time].  

My self-awareness allowed me to accept the notion that I wanted to be more social, but instead of doing anything about it, I just laughed it off, choosing to stay in over accepting invitations to get out, identifying with the notion of introvert-with-extrovert-dreams. I thought that if I was laughing about it — if I was aware enough about this aspect of myself to make fun of it — I was in some way enlightened. But that kind of enlightenment will never lead to self-improvement. 

If I wanted to be truly self-aware, I'd have to recognize that my desired level of social interaction doesn't fit in one of two boxes (introvert vs. extrovert). I'd have to come to accept that, while I might enjoy alone time a bit more than others do, I'm not content with being alone all of the time. And, most importantly, I'd have to use this deeper awareness to initiate change, to push myself out of my comfort zone and actually get out more, instead of simply saying I should. 

And so I did. I reached out to more people and initiated social activities. I accepted more invitations (even when it was cold and I would have much rather have snuggled down in my apartment with my dog). I pushed myself to drive farther, stay out later, say yes more often. I took my self-awareness and I used it to initiate change. I embraced change (albeit in small bits), and I turned my awareness into action. 



Choosing to step past awareness and take action wasn't a simple feat for me. It meant removing the labels I've placed on myself. It meant putting myself in situations that made me a little bit uncomfortable, but that pushed me to actually have a better understanding of myself. Making changes isn't easy, but the longer we talk about them without taking action, the more difficult the change will be.

We all have aspects of ourselves we'd like to change. Some of them we're very aware of and others we've yet to identify. The trouble is, sometimes we are so aware of — and identify so closely with — some aspect of ourselves (for better or worse!) that we don't actually think to make a change. Sometimes it's because we don't think of change as an option; sometimes it's because we keep putting it off (as I did — thinking I'd somehow magically be more social one day without trying); and sometimes it's because, deep down, we don't want to change because we're afraid of who we might be without that aspect of ourselves. 

It's important to step past self-awareness and into a place of change. Of course, some aspects of the self won't need to be changed, but for those that aren't quite right (you'll know them by the fact that they don't feel authentically, truly you), acknowledging them isn't enough. If you want to create a positive, present environment for yourself, you have to take what you know about who you are and make changes where necessary. You have to take your self-awareness and use it as a stepping stone for self-improvement. Changing the way you think about yourself is important, but changing the way you act is essential. 

A great way to be proactive about your self-awareness is to feel inspired and motivated to take action. In my new book (out next week!!!!), I share insights and inspiration for creating a positive, present life. Want a copy? See below for details on the book and how to enter to win!  




I'm offering one lucky guy or gal a chance to win an advanced signed copy of my book (available for pre-order now and in stores and online March 10!), The Positively Present Guide to Life. The book is an inspirational, two-color hardcover beauty, filled with specific, action-oriented advice for embracing positive thinking in everyday life to: create a nurturing home, build a fulfilling career, develop great relationships, appreciate true love, and embrace change. To enter to win a personalized, signed copy of the book, see below! 





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