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One of my all-time favorite movies is Elf and, while watching it (again!) the other day, I exclaimed, "I should write about how positive Buddy the Elf is!" I often have these blog-post-related epiphanies, but this one I'm actually turning into a reality. You might not like the film. You might not celebrate Christmas. You might not share my affinity for elf culture, or for Buddy. But I guarantee that you'll gain something from the life lessons I gathered after watching the film yet another time. Check them out...

10 Life Lessons from Elf

Lesson #1: Spread cheer (Christmas and otherwise).  
"The best way to spread Christmas cheer is singing loud for all to hear."

Spreading cheer sounds like an easy enough thing to do -- but not when the people around you aren't into it. That's one of the great things about Buddy the Elf. He doesn't care if other people are cheerful or not. He continues to look for the positive in the things around him and point them out to others. And, in addition, he tries to encourage others to be cheerful as well (as he was doing when he said the above quote to love interest, Jovie). It's not always easy to be cheerful, but Buddy serves as an motivating inspiration for the benefits of having a cheerful attitude.

Lesson #2: Make smiling your favorite.

"I just like to smile! Smiling's my favorite."

Smiling's a small thing that's actually a big thing. The small act of smiling can change not only someone else's day, but your own as well. Try it. Next time you see someone you know -- or even someone you don't -- remember Buddy's quote above and make smiling your favorite thing to do. Greeting someone with a smile can transform an interaction and set a pleasant tone for that person -- and for you as well. Don't think you'll be running into anyone today? Try looking in the mirror and smiling at yourself. Sounds crazy but it's actually a mood-booster!

Lesson #3: Be yourself, even when it's hard to know who you are
"Actually, I'm a human, but I was raised by elves."

From the beginning of the film, Buddy struggles with his identity. Having been raised by elves, rather than humans, he struggles to figure out where he fits in in the world. He might look like a human but he certainly acts like an elf. Nevertheless, throughout the film, Buddy strives to be himself -- even when that self makes him stick out dramatically in the human world. It would be much easier for him to learn and conform to the standards around him, but Buddy chooses to stay true to himself -- a trait I admire in anyone (human or elf!).

Lesson #4: Give out compliments freely.
"Deb, you have such a pretty face. You should be on a Christmas card!"

One thing Buddy does incredibly well is dole out compliments. As the movie progresses, the number of positive things Buddy says about other people is actually pretty amazing. The quote above references only one of the times he compliments his father's assistant and, from her reaction, you know his words made her day. I find that I often have complimentary thoughts, but I don't always say them aloud. Making the effort not only to see the positive in others, but to tell them about it as well, can have a very powerful impact on your social interactions.

Lesson #5: Take risks.
"Papa says my real father lives in a magical place far away... but the thing is, I've never left the North Pole."

Want good things to happen to you? Like Buddy, you have to take risks. At the beginning of the film, Buddy finds out that he's not actually an elf and, though he's never before left the North Pole, he decides to bravely venture to NYC to meet his human father. This is the kind of risk a lot of people would be hesitant to take, but it's just the kind of risk that can have great rewards. Doing something different -- breaking out of your comfort zone -- is a great way to find new and exciting outlets for positivity in your life.

Lesson #6: Don't give up.
"I passed through the seven levels of the Candy Cane forest, through the sea of swirly twirly gum drops, and then I walked through the Lincoln Tunnel."

The quote above is just one example of Buddy's perseverance demonstrated in the film. On more than one occasion, Buddy is faced with challenges, but instead of complaining or stressing about them as many of us do, Buddy takes his challenges head-on and does what he needs to do to achieve whatever goal he's working towards. With the amount of times Buddy is put down in the film, it would have been much easier for him to give up and return the life he'd been living. But, as the positively inspiring elf that he is, Buddy doesn't give up but instead keeps working harder and harder -- all while maintaining a positive attitude!

Lesson #7: Speak your mind.
"If you can sing alone, you can sing in front of other people. There's no difference."

In a conversation with his love interest, Jovie, Buddy explains to her that there's no difference between singing in front of others and singing alone (a fact he then goes on to demonstrate). Though she strongly disagrees with his point, Buddy doesn't seem to mind and continues to do what he can to convince her. This is only one example of how, in the film, Buddy is never afraid to say what's on his mind. He'll tell someone he loves him. He'll tell a fake Santa he's a fraud. He'll speak the truth -- and his mind -- without hesitation, something most are afraid to do. We could all learn a thing or two from Buddy's ability to be open and honest with those around him.

Lesson #8: Let life excite you.
"Good news! I saw a dog today!"

One of the things I love most about Buddy the Elf is his ability to be truly excited by life. In the scene from which the quote above was taken, Buddy greets his half-brother after school and exclaims with utter joy how he's spent his day. The most mundane things excite Buddy and there's not a bit of him that holds back his excitement for life. Can you imagine what the world would be like if everyone was as happy to be alive as Buddy is? If everyone looked at the world around him/her with utter excitement? Buddy's inspired me to take another look around and see the wonder that really is all around me. Too often I get caught up on what I have to get done and I forget to stop and really be present and enjoy the moment -- something Buddy seems to do very well.

Lesson #9: Show affection.

"Does somebody need a hug?"

How often do you show affection to the ones you love? I do what I can to be affectionate, but I can honestly say I'm no match for the ever-affectionate Buddy, who is always giving hugs and spouting words of love. Now, I wouldn't recommend hugging everyone (as Buddy demonstrates in the quote above, said right before he attempts to hug an angry-looking raccoon), but I do think there's a lesson to be learned from Buddy's ability to openly and consistently show affection. Showing affection is a great way to connect with others and make their lives -- and yours! -- more positive.

Lesson #10: Do what you love.
"First we'll make snow angels for a two hours, then we'll go ice skating, then we'll eat a whole roll of Tollhouse cookie dough as fast as we can, and then we'll snuggle."

If there's one lesson to be taken away from the film, it's this: do what you love. Buddy, being the positive elf that he is, loves doing a lot of things and they aren't the "normal" things most adult men love to do, but you know what? He does them anyway. He doesn't let the human culture constrain him, forcing him to do what he "should" do. No, Buddy makes his own path and finds ways to spend time doing the things he loves to do. We should all follow Buddy's lead and be honest with ourselves about what we truly love to do. Once we've identified our favorite things, it's time to put that love into action because doing what you love to do is one of the best ways to be positive and present.


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I love this post! Elf is one of my favorite Christmas movies. I hadn't thought about it too much, but there's lots to learn from it!

Great lessons. I love that movie.

This was just lovely. Elf is a wonderful movie and has such a great message :) Thank you for this. It made me smile.

Buddy knows how to get his elf on. That's great.

I'm a fan of unleashing my inner-elf, it's the holiday way.

Beautiful lessons and insights.

Molly - Thank you! As you can see, it's always one of my favorite Christmas movies and I'm glad I was able to share some lessons I'd learned from it here. Hope those homemade Christmas gifts are coming along alright! :)

JR - Thanks! Me too. It's such a great one. I appreciate your comment!

Alaina - I agree that the message behind Elf is a great one. I've watched it so many times but this year was the first year I actually thought about the message and the lessons in the film. Thanks for your comment!

JD - Haha, yes Buddy does! Unleashing our inner elves is definitely a great way to celebrate the holiday season!

This is awesome, I also have an affinity for elf culture, hahaha :) buddy teaches us so many important lessons. I'd love to re-post this (citing you of course) if you don't mind.

yea. best article ever. so simple to the point.

Buddy the elf DOES indeed teach us a thing or 2 about life.

Blanca - Thank you! So great to see that someone shares my affinity for elf culture, ha! Of course you're more than welcome to cite me and repost this. Thanks for spreading the word!

Laurie Ann - Thanks! So happy you liked this one. Odd as it might seem, I really have learned a lot from this movie. Thanks for commenting.

This is amazing. I love these types of posts. I am always trying to find connections like this. Such a fun post to read : )

Shenee - Thanks! I'm so happy you enjoyed this post and found it be fun because I really had a great time writing this. Happy holidays!

Buddy would SO APPROVE!!

And I do too :-)

Kath - Hahaha, I agree! I think Buddy would be a fan of this post. And I'm so glad you are too! :)

Just what I needed to find today! I ADORE ELF, and so do many people I know, so I will spread your wonderful article!

Erin - Yay! I'm so happy this article was just what you needed. Thanks for spreading the word about it. I really appreciate that! :)

I love this movie Elf as well. A lot to learn from to make your life and life of others much better.

Tall Lexy - Yay! Another Elf fan! There's definitely so much to learn from this movie and I'm happy you stopped by to check out this post. Thanks!

This was great! and I couldn't agree more.

Carla Jo - So glad you enjoyed this! It's definitely one of my favorite movies. In fact, I'm dressing up as Buddy for Halloween this year!

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