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a month of celebrating self-love!


Tomorrow I'm launching a month-long celebration of self-love here on Positively Present, which means every post in the month of February will be geared toward revving up your love of yourself. The month of February is usually focused on loving others. That's an awesome thing to do and it's very important when it comes to living a positive life -- but so is loving yourself. So, this year, I've decided that the month of February should also the time of year when we pause and remember to love ourselves as well those around us.

Honestly, there are too many people in the world who treat others better than they treat themselves. They would never say a harsh would about someone they love, but they're quick to judge themselves and put themselves down. That, to me, is not okay. It's not okay to judge yourself and criticize yourself and, in some cases, even hate yourself. If you want to live the most positive,  present life that you can, you absolutely must love yourself. And you must do it now.

As urgent as this self-love call to action is, it's certainly not an easy task to tackle -- especially if it's something you've struggled with for some time -- which is why I'm dedicating not a post to it, but an entire month of posts. If there's one thing I truly believe in it's self-love, and it's my goal to share all I know about the topic with you this month in hope that someone -- even just one person -- will begin to see how much s/he is worth and how important it is to love him/herself. 

Though it's still January, I want to kick off this month of self-love a day early with a few inspiring quotes about loving yourself. Though I have a lot to say on the subject, I'm no self-love expert and so I've gathered quotes on the subject that have inspired me to believe in the value of self-love. I hope you'll take these words of wisdom to heart and use them as reminders to love yourself -- no matter what.

Self-Love Inspiration

"The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely."
Carl Jung


"Self-love is not so vile a sin as self-neglecting."
William Shakespeare


"To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance."
Oscar Wilde


"Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are."
Kurt Cobain


"A person's worth in this world is estimated according to the value they put on themselves."
Jean De La Bruyere


"We have to learn to be our own best friends because we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies."
Roderick Thorp


"Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror."
Byron Katie


"Make the most of yourself, for that is all there is of you."
Ralph Waldo Emerson


"Just as much as we see in others we have in ourselves."
William Hazlitt


"You, as much as anyone in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection."


"Do not wish to be anything other than what you are."
St. Francis De Sales


"Self-love is the source of all our other loves."
Pierre Corneille


"Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one's own sunshine"
Ralph Waldo Emerson


"Of all the judgments we pass in life, none is more important than the judgment we pass on ourselves."
Nathaniel Branden


“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become."
Carl Jung


"Whatever you are doing, love yourself for doing it. Whatever you are feeling, love yourself for feeling it."
Thaddeus Golas


"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be."
Lao Tzu


"We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.”
Dalai Lama


"Drop the idea of becoming someone, because you are already a masterpiece. You cannot be improved. You have only to come to it, to know it, to realize it.”

Though I value self-love immensely, I'm no expert on the subject. I know what I believe, what I feel, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't love to learn more -- and that's where I need your help. If you come across any articles, blog posts, videos, films, songs, or personal experiences that relate to the topic of self-love, I'd love to hear about them. Send links/info to me at positivepresent [at] gmail [dot] com, or leave any found tidbits in the comments section. Together we can spread the word about self-love and make a difference in how we (and others!) see the world around us.



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How exciting...I can't wait! Love all the quotes...this one really resonates with me. “I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become."
Carl Jung

Over the years as I've reflected on things that happened to me in my childhood and young adulthood, all the good and the bad, I am proud of the person I am today and that I was choosing my path and not following "what should be done or expected" from the things life had thrown at me. I love the person I am today (and learning to love me more and more), and wouldn't change a thing (not even the bad) that's brought me to who I am today...and who I am to continue to become. Thanks Dani...looking forward to February!

This sounds terrific and it is just what I need. To me self-love is a tough subject. I find it hard to love myself. It's effortless for me to love others, but I struggle when it comes to treating myself the same way. So I'm really looking forward to Febuary and your posts. Thanks!

Saggleo - I'm glad you're as excited about self-love month as I am. I think it's going to be awesome! Like you, that particular quote really resonates with me. I've come a long way since the person I used to be and I have to say that I'm really proud of it. I know I can choose what I want to become and I don't have to allow circumstances (past or present) to define who I am. I'm so glad you're loving the person you are today. It's an amazing thing to do!

Dandy - Self-love is a really tough one. No matter what anyone says, most people really struggle with it, which is why I decided to dedicate an entire month to it. I'm hoping this month of posts will provide lots of inspiration!

I just came back from holidays to see your site has undergone a new look! I love it! Looks great.

Also thankyou for posting up about self-love. I think it's a really important topic & I'm really excited to be following your posts throughout February. I've stuggled enourmously with self esteem issues & I'm really trying to turn things around & love myself fully.

Thankyou over and over again for your wonderful blog & your inspiring words.


I'm so excited that another one of my favorite blogs is focusing on self-love this month! I'm trying to do the same in a major way in my own life so it's exciting to see others on the web writing on this topic.

What a great celebration! I love the quotes. This is so in sync with the UPrising I just began on my site--Find Your Coregreen--which is about finding the best of you. So fun that we're on the same wavelength about this.

Years ago, a friend of mine told me that if I loved myself even remotely the way I loved my dog, I'd be very happy. That was life-changing for me. I began to love myself that way, and it has made me a MUCH happier person. :)

Charlotte - Thanks so much for the compliment on the new look! I worked hard on coming up with a new design, and it means a lot to hear positive feedback. I'm glad you agree with the importance of self-love. Most people, sadly, don't have enough of it and I'm hoping this month will open minds up to the idea of truly loving oneself. I hope you find the posts this month inspiring!

Emily - Yay! It's a great topic and I hope you get a lot of inspiration from the posts I'll be featuring this month. Stay tuned!

Ande - Thank you! I'm glad you like it -- and that it's so in line with what you're working on on your site. That's awesome! And what a great thing for your friend to tell you. When I think about it that way, I would absolutely ADORE myself because I love my dog sooo much! Excellent way of thinking about it!

love love love it...so many good inspiring quotes...

Wow, this is just what I need to read right now! Call it RIGHT timing indeed. You see, I'm in a very crappy mood these past few days because of some relationship issues. . Day in, day out, It's all I'm thinking of. And It's making me miserable by the day. . I want to put a stop to it asap.
It is time to put an end to it and start with myself again before it breaks me into pieces. Self love is what I need.
Thanks for the reminder and I just want to say THANK YOU! You just don't know how many more lives you have touch and change because of your articles. This is a gift and keep on spreading. May your tribe increase.
Have a nice day!

Dawn - Yay! I'm so glad you love this one! Thanks for reading!

Simply Lisa - It makes me so happy to read your comment and to know you're reading this post at just the right time. I've been where you are -- my mind completely consumed by relationship issues -- and I know how difficult it can be to love yourself at a time like that. I'm so happy you're open to self-love and you know it's what you need right now because it will truly help you to live a more positive life, no matter what your relationship status. Thank you so much for reading Positively Present. It means SO much to me to know that I'm able to help other people with my words. That's all I really want to do with my life and to know I'm already doing it makes me feel amazing. Keep thinking positively -- and don't forget to love yourself!

This sounds like a great idea!!! I can't wait :) I think it's always important to be kind to yourself. And I'm glad you're going to be celebrating and encouraging that.

Molly - Thank you! Being kind to yourself and loving yourself as you are is so, so important and I'm happy to be highlighting self-love this month. Thanks for stopping by and joining in the celebration!

there is not one time in my life that i needed these special posting than this month.

i am on a journey right now of trying to love and respect myself. Because for so my years i have neglected and beat myself up.

Thank you as always.

Laurie Ann - That makes me so happy to know that this post reached you at the exact right time in your life. I'm so happy to hear that you're on a journey to self-love and I wish you nothing but the best on your journey!

I LOVE LOVE LOVE your blog and everything you're doing! I just discovered it today through Miseducated. I left a comment there but thought I'd leave one here too. The main purpose behind our blog is inspiring self-love in women and girls, and I want to make our readers aware of your blog. I was wondering if it would be alright if we use your "self-love month" graphic as a badge on our blog if it links over to yours?


P.S. Just in case I miss your reply, you can email me at theclosetnarcissist[at]gmail . com. Thank you! :)

Jenarcissist - Thanks so much! I'm so happy you like the blog and that you were able to find it. It sounds like we're on the same page with what we're trying to do. I'm looking forward to checking out your site. And of course you're more than welcome to use the graphic if you link back to Positively Present!

Jenarcissist - Thanks so much! I'm so happy you like the blog and that you were able to find it. It sounds like we're on the same page with what we're trying to do. I'm looking forward to checking out your site. And of course you're more than welcome to use the graphic if you link back to Positively Present!

Like the blog, appreciate the share!

Kathryn - You're welcome! Thanks for reading!

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