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how to create happy moments



I believe there's a big difference between being positive and being happy. To me, positivity is a mindset you can have it all times — regardless of the situation — while happiness is something you experience for a set (usually brief) period of time. Happiness in the general sense is what many people strive for, but what they should be striving for instead is to cultivate a positive mindset that will lead to more happy moments. Creating a positive mindset involves a lifestyle change and a complete shift in how you see the world (something I hope I'm encouraging with each Positively Present blog post!). Happy moments, on the other hand, can be created with small acts. 

Each and every day we have the opportunity to create little bits of happiness for ourselves and for others. We might not feel happy for long periods of time (like those days when everything just seems to be going wrong), but that doesn't mean we can't have happy moments. Sometimes we don't feel we deserve happy moments and sometimes we don't feel as if we can have them (like when we're really upset or angry), but no matter how you're feeling in a general sense (positive, negative, angry, sad, joyful, excited, nervous, etc.), you can create little moments in a day when you feel a burst of happiness. 

The trick to having these moments is to be open to the possibility of having them. No matter what your mindset of the day, if you're open to a little bit of happiness, you can create it or find it. I'm not going to say this won't take some effort on your bad days — it's going to be tough — but if you're at least open to the possibility of a little bit of happiness, you'll give yourself a chance to experience it.  

You might be wondering what these little moments of happiness consist of. In my mind, they're those fleeting moments when, no matter what's going on in your life, you feel a bit of joy inside, even if it's only for a moment. This might be because of someone else's act or something you've done for yourself, but whatever the reason, you feel like smiling. Obviously we can't control when others do things that give us these little happy moments, but we can do things to create happy moments for ourselves. Here are some ideas for creating happy moments (even if you're not having a happy day!): 



  • Give a nice tip to someone serving you
  • Smile at a coworker you don't know well
  • Eat something with sprinkles on it
  • Draw a caricature of yourself or a friend
  • Watch a funny video on YouTube (like this)
  • Do an unexpected favor for a friend
  • Make a list of things you're grateful for
  • Strike up a conversation with a stranger
  • Call up a friend for a quick chat
  • Pay for someone behind you in line
  • Explore archives on a favorite site
  • Give someone an unexpected hug or kiss
  • List what you've accomplished today
  • Make shadow puppets in the dark
  • Send a handwritten letter to a friend
  • Research places you'd like to visit
  • Sign up for an online learning experience
  • Go for a short walk around the block
  • Offer to pick up the lunch/dinner tab
  • Compliment a complete stranger
  • Bake something delicious just for you
  • Lend someone your favorite book
  • Send a surprise pizza to a friend
  • Let someone in your lane while driving
  • Tell a friend why you love him/her
  • Order flowers for someone (or yourself!)
  • Donate used clothing to charity
  • Write a check to your favorite charity
  • Send a just-because thank you note
  • Tell a silly joke to a friend
  • Take a colleague out to lunch
  • Bring your boss/coworker/friend coffee
  • Post something uplifting on Facebook


As you can see, there are tons of little ways to bring happiness into your day (many of which, you might have noticed, involve bringing happiness to others). 




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Hi Dani,
I used to follow your blog (because I was also blogging regularly on the subject matter) back when you first started up. I'm just coming out of a 6 year writer's block now, getting back on Twitter and saw your tweet. Anyway, I've friended you on FB as I don't use the old account from back then, and followed on Pinterest. So great to see you have a book out - well done! (I was writing one way back then - I hope to dust if off and finish it this year)

Friend on Facebook and follow on Instagram (lucky_on_purpose on Instagram)

Hi I entered on your blog, I followed you on fb, graham, twitter - via my personal account Erin Pride.

What a cool magazine--somehow I haven't heard of it until now.

I follow you on Pinterest and FB, and I just joined Instagram so I'm now following you there, too.

Hi Dani! I entered by following your Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram in addition to friending you on Facebook.
Thank you! :)

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I entered the contest by following you on Pinterest, friending you on Facebook, and posting a link on my Facebook page .

Hi Dani,

I entered by following on Pinterest, Twitter, Facebook and I already followed on Instagram. I also tweeted once.

Thank you for this chance. :)

Hi I have friended you on facebook and follow you on instagram. Plus I bought your diary!

You have inspired me to try out some of the ideas you listed - thank you!

I follow you on FB.

Follow you on Instagram, Pinterest and facebook! Love your Friday emails!!

Hi Dani!

First and foremost, thank you for your blog! It is so honest and refreshing, and I love reading your posts! I've never heard of this magazine but now am super excited about it!

I've sent PositivelyPresent a friend request on Facebook, and I am now following PositivePresent on Twitter, PositivelyPresent on Instagram and Pinterest.

I have also linked this post to my WordPress blog and emailed it to 10 different friends and family! I even reposted and liked this post on Facebook, tweeted it, and repined it on one of my Pinterest boards!

I liked you on Facebook and followed you on Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest ages ago. Keep up the great work!

Thanks for the chance to win, I sent a friend request on Facebook, I followed on Twitter, I was already following on Instagram and Pinterest. I tweeted about the contest on Twitter and pinned on Pinterest.

Follow on Twitter, Pinterest and Instagram.
Just added FB to the mix!
Would like to win! Fingers crossed.

Hi Dani! I follow you on pintrest, twitter and just sent a FB request. Thanks!

friend of facebook (Cynthia Lee), followed on Instagram, Twitter, and Pinterest ( iamjustcynthia)

sharing via facebook

Love this magazine!

Hi Dani,

I am already following on FB, Twitter, Pinterest and Instagram so I shared 1 time on FB, Tweeted 3 times, Pinned 1 time in Pinterest, posted to Instagram 1 time.

Coming to your blog has become part of a daily routine for me. It is sort of like a prescription for uplifting myself! I very much enjoy the articles, the weekly picks, the links you share, and your general attitude. Just reading the pieces is very contagious.

I love the post this week. It also comes very close to hitting on something I wrote about in my own blog post this week, regarding making your own life more positive. If you get the chance, would love your visit. (Link in my info.) While you speak about the need to focus on the positive and not just how to be happy, since one creates the other, I speak about shedding light on the positive vs. negative. =)

I love the list you give here, and in fact I am going to print this list and put it up on my "positive bulletin board" (a physical place at my desk, where only uplifting things go, to remind me.) I might also print one for my wallet. =)

Thank you also for the social media reminder...something I have been meaning to do for your site anyway. I pinned this post twice, on two different Pinterest boards of mine. I also friended on FB, and followed on Pinterest and Instagram. I will also like the article once the request goes through. For next post I will probably mention your blog, if that is okay. I won't mention links if I truly don't like them, and yours is one of my favorites. Though the magazine would be nice, I honestly like the idea more, of sharing your blog with more people. The more people spread ideas and inspiration like this, the better off the world is. That is the true gift, the magazine would only be a bonus for me. =)

Also, I added your book to my Amazon wishlist. I am hoping to be able to purchase it when it comes out, or hint family that I like it. ;)

Thank you for always writing such an uplifting and inspiring blog, I look forward to reading here every week, every entry. I just know your ripples keep going out, they sure do for me. I think it's wonderful you make a difference. =)

Dear Dani, I've been following your blog, Facebook page and Pinterest boards for quite some time now and love every bit of it. Amongst the throng of information, inspiration and positive reading material I chose to stay in touch only with your blog, as it provides the best and the most concise content on positive living (of course that's just my opinion). Keep up the good work!

sent a friend request!

following on twitter (@bostonandrea)

following on insta (@azeytoon)

following on pinterest! (@whatcomestomind)

What a great list and article! Just writing to say I absolutely love your blog. So inspiring!

Hi Dani. I would love to win a subscription to Live Happy as the magazine and your blog are so inspiring! I have followed you everywhere - FB, Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest. I have linked to this post on Pinterest. Good luck everyone :)

Hi Dani! I'm following you on Pinterest, Facebook and Twitter and happy to be doing so! I've been following your blog for a few years now and it always lifts my spirits and inspires me to be a better person. Thank you!

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